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#2246359 - 05/18/12 12:00 PM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: jks]
RoRoinMD Offline
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Registered: 01/17/12
Posts: 871
Originally Posted By: jks
Ro, just read your thread here and, wow, it is inspiring! I am so happy for you and your success throughout this journey. To hear my H tell me he loves me again and to have him want to hug me and kiss me would truly be a miracle! I hope you realize that you really have something special here.

Yes, stay grounded... but enjoy this. You deserve it!


Eh, I don't know about inspiring. If you can learn anything from the mistakes and trip ups I've made, then that's enough for me.

Staying grounded is hard when all I want is to hear him say he's an idiot, made a big mistake, and wants to work things out. LOL I just keep telling myself let this be enough for now. Don't scare the squirrel.
_________________________
Me:34
H:38
SS:19 - lives in NC with his mom
M:3
Bomb #1: 1/3/12 - We're not compatible. I want out.
Bomb #2: 1/12/12 - Found out about EA/PA
H moves out 10/2/12

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#2246362 - 05/18/12 12:01 PM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: LIO]
RoRoinMD Offline
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Registered: 01/17/12
Posts: 871
Originally Posted By: LIO
Ro I love your story - thank you for posting it. To get a card like that would be amazing, it's so crazy how the simplest thing like saying "I love you" becomes so important.


Thanks LIO! Because after getting two cards with "I will always love you" on it, I will admit I was discouraged. Then it started not to matter so much. So when I got this card, it was like well, okay then.

I need to catch up on your thread...over there I go. :-)
_________________________
Me:34
H:38
SS:19 - lives in NC with his mom
M:3
Bomb #1: 1/3/12 - We're not compatible. I want out.
Bomb #2: 1/12/12 - Found out about EA/PA
H moves out 10/2/12

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#2246480 - 05/18/12 04:26 PM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: RoRoinMD]
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 877
remember...he can not control her

sounds to me like she is jealous b*tch and needed to remind BOTH of you that she was still there



get it

BOTH of you

a simple thanks with a smiley face in response to her next message might be good

try to keep in mind that she is going to go crazy trying to remind him that he "loves" her...

ler her be the crazy one
let her spiral around like a lunatic while you remain calm and confident where you are

do you see how unattractive she made herself
how small and petty
what a loser

don't fall into it
don't let her make you sweat it with him

because

YOU are the one he is living with
YOU are the one he gets to see everyday
YOU are the one who has a chance to be gracious and beautiful and loving toward him (when he is in an unloavable position)

be the bigger, better person (because you are)

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#2246483 - 05/18/12 04:28 PM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: figgeroni]
figgeroni Offline
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Registered: 10/26/09
Posts: 877
she will go crazier before leaving for good

they always do


watch your husband
look into his eyes and tell him you trust him
mean it

because you are in a relationship with him
not with her

he might not have said the words that he wants to try again but he sure appears to be showing you

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#2246523 - 05/18/12 05:56 PM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: figgeroni]
vera be fierce Offline
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^^^^^^^like button

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#2246594 - 05/18/12 11:57 PM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: vera be fierce]
LIO Offline
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Registered: 04/09/12
Posts: 227
Loc: NW USA
Originally Posted By: verab754
^^^^^^^like button

double like
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Me& h + S
M: 13 t: 14

H moved 2/12. Own apt 05/12, EAs, PAs, gfriends, oh my!
I'm done. 12/12

"I get knocked down, but I get up again.. you're never gonna keep me down" Chumbawumba

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#2246639 - 05/19/12 08:39 AM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: LIO]
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Registered: 12/23/11
Posts: 983
Praying for your strength, Ro! Hope you have a great weekend!
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Me:44, W:43
S:15, D:11
M:21, T:24
Bomb: July 2010
Stopped MC for 2nd time late summer 2013
Dropping the rope...

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#2246655 - 05/19/12 10:09 AM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: figgeroni]
RoRoinMD Offline
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Registered: 01/17/12
Posts: 871
Originally Posted By: figgeroni
remember...he can not control her

sounds to me like she is jealous b*tch and needed to remind BOTH of you that she was still there



get it

BOTH of you

a simple thanks with a smiley face in response to her next message might be good

try to keep in mind that she is going to go crazy trying to remind him that he "loves" her...

ler her be the crazy one
let her spiral around like a lunatic while you remain calm and confident where you are

do you see how unattractive she made herself
how small and petty
what a loser

don't fall into it
don't let her make you sweat it with him

because

YOU are the one he is living with
YOU are the one he gets to see everyday
YOU are the one who has a chance to be gracious and beautiful and loving toward him (when he is in an unloavable position)

be the bigger, better person (because you are)


Hi fig! Thanks for stopping by!

I, too, believe she did it to remind us BOTH that she is still on the side. I didn't respond to her directly, but maybe next time I will. Although H told me that he told her not to respond or post to anything else.

I know she is reaching for every morsel she can get right now. I do need to be the calm one. But I'm going to be honest here and say while I'm the one he's living with, and sees everyday, he still hasn't stopped his A, that I know of. It's getting harder and harder to be the bigger person. Just saying...
_________________________
Me:34
H:38
SS:19 - lives in NC with his mom
M:3
Bomb #1: 1/3/12 - We're not compatible. I want out.
Bomb #2: 1/12/12 - Found out about EA/PA
H moves out 10/2/12

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#2246657 - 05/19/12 10:13 AM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: figgeroni]
RoRoinMD Offline
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Registered: 01/17/12
Posts: 871
Originally Posted By: figgeroni
she will go crazier before leaving for good

they always do


watch your husband
look into his eyes and tell him you trust him
mean it

because you are in a relationship with him
not with her

he might not have said the words that he wants to try again but he sure appears to be showing you


You know, I thought about this very thing. How much more crazy am I going to have to deal with?

I'm going to have to work on the whole trusting thing. Clearly his track record isn't good here. I need to figure how to believe his actions even if the words aren't there. Not sure I know how to do that...
_________________________
Me:34
H:38
SS:19 - lives in NC with his mom
M:3
Bomb #1: 1/3/12 - We're not compatible. I want out.
Bomb #2: 1/12/12 - Found out about EA/PA
H moves out 10/2/12

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#2246658 - 05/19/12 10:14 AM Re: Rollercoaster...of love...Trying to get to the top [Re: LIO]
RoRoinMD Offline
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Registered: 01/17/12
Posts: 871
Originally Posted By: LIO
Originally Posted By: verab754
^^^^^^^like button

double like


:-) Now if I can only do what fig suggests!
_________________________
Me:34
H:38
SS:19 - lives in NC with his mom
M:3
Bomb #1: 1/3/12 - We're not compatible. I want out.
Bomb #2: 1/12/12 - Found out about EA/PA
H moves out 10/2/12

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