MrBond, really thanks you for your continue encouragement. I try to do what you ask me to do but I am never able to do everything. I see she is getting further and further away. When I lost my job last time, she give me support to look for a new job. But when I told her yesterday, she told me she is busy can't talk on the phone.
I think through over the weekend and see what you have wrote here, I do not want to give up. I do not want my son to be raised by the in law. (He is going to die in next 15 to 20 years time too so I could not be bother)
Now I want to go step by step into Michele DR. I am at this stage of "Know what you want". So the goals must be solution oriented.
so this is my initial goals.
1. I want my wife to stay married 2. I want a better commumication between us 3. I want the family to be back again
In my situation, I do not know how to break this down into something that can be achievable within week or two. I need some guidance here.
MrBond, it will be unfair for you to call me a stubborn and as you already know I am actually working on my child as what you and my counsellor in Singapore have suggested. In fact working on the child is not a strategy but necessary as my boy need a dad. I have love him wholeheartedly.
Now, the problem is I understand I CANNOT DO ANYTHING DIRECTLY TO GET MY WIFE BACK. So I am reading the DR to follow the step inside slowly. I am just asking for a suggestion about my goals, is there anything wrong in it?
DR has worked for many couple in the past and I am at the beginning state looking for help, isn't that what this forum is support to do? I don't understand why you keep thinking I am not working on the child as I have already done it. What I want to do next is follow DR method to save my marriage and I am here to ask for suggestion.