That sounds like good interaction. So, since he's starting intensive EMDR on 29MAR for 2 months maybe keep the chit chat going and see where his head is at in 2 months. Don't do it if it hurts you though!!!!
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Yeah, definitely not expecting anything to change between now and when he finishes EMDR. Since it's not fair for me to have to deal with him according to him LMAO. Dim until then I guess.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
I hope his therapy goes well. Keep yourself busy and moving forward. Have you thought how much time you are allowing for things to improve between you? What if he still doesn't want to give it another try, are you going to accept that or keep trying to get him to fight for your relationship?
big hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Just checking in to see how things are going with you? Is Roger still maintaining constant contact or has that begun to taper off? Or maybe he has come to his senses and is attempting to reconcile.
Roger is still maintaining contact. It is still mostly about the dog, but he still slips in bits about what is going on with him.
Last Thursday I went to pick up the dog and ended up staying and having a beer with him. I got there ahead of a wicked thunderstorm and he was concerned that it looked like a funnel cloud could form (we didn't have the radio on, but I found out from my coworker that they did issue tornado warnings on her drive home from work). He offered me a beer and said I should hang out til there was a break in the storm. We chit chatted a bit and he was telling me about his EMDR (he had just gotten home from a session). Apparently his therapist is focusing on positive thinking during about 3/4 of the EMDR sessions, but he had done some hard work that day related to being the one to discover his mom after his stroke. He said that for the first time he felt sorry for that little boy.
There's been some interesting interaction about my upcoming vacation too. I got a e-mail about deals to Maui and cleared it with my boss, so I am taking a week off next month and going to Maui for 5 days! Plane ticket was only $358!!!! I told Roger about it because I wanted to know if he could watch the dog. Roger told me that if I packed him in my luggage, he would be my private masseuse for the trip lol. He mentioned he has been trying to plan a vacation, but has had no luck as prices have been too high and how this sounded like such a great deal. But then made a point of saying he wouldn't go at the same time because he wouldn't want to ruin my vacation. I thought that was a rather odd statement, and told him that would be a first. He asked if it would be weird, and I said yeah, it would. So he said yeah, he would watch the dog. He definitely is jealous though lol.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Woo hoo - vacation to Maui!!! I am definitely jealous. I lived on Oahu for about 3 years, by Maui by far was my favorite Hawaiian Island. It has a little bit of everything - nightlife and out of the way hidden beaches. Enjoy it and make sure he knows how much you did!
[09:57] roger: lucky lil wanker [09:57] roger: going to maui [09:57] roger: u suck! [09:57] mi: so you keep saying lol [09:58] roger: Yup... I like to reaffirm your positive traits [09:58] roger: ... errrr negative traits [09:58] roger: when I'm jealous [09:59] mi: har har [09:59] roger: that could be misconstrued as a conflict of interest [09:59] mi: guess I'll have to work on that [10:00] roger: if you are good at something ... could it be a positive and a negative? [10:00] roger: lol [10:00] mi: usually [10:00] mi: all depends on the perspective lol [10:01] roger: yeah... well my barometer is all effed up cuz I'm on 3 hrs of sleep and need a vacation and a blowjob LOL [10:02] mi: lol too bad you don't always get what you want [10:59] roger: LOL yeah oh well... [11:00] roger: did u read about this? [11:00] roger: http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/trending-now...-172446596.html [11:06] mi: If I got everything I wanted I wouldn't be just visiting Maui lol [11:06] mi: and I'd have you for a personal masseuse year round lol [11:06] mi: that's a sweet video [11:10] roger: LOL. Yeah it is.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2
Quite the banter still going on. That could be taken as a positive. Hopefully he'll come out the other side of this EMDR with a new outlook. Fingers crossed!
That story about the lab staying with his friend was so unreal!!! What a sweet doggie.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
