Doesn't the saying go, "Don't trust anything you hear and less than half of what you see and don't make plans based on the ridiculously insane things they say they want a year from now"?
I think I got the quote wrong, but it's pretty close to that.
- All for the kids - Me:34, W:35 M:7, T:13 S6, D3 + my D15 from previous marriage July 2011 "I think I need a separation" W filed D September Currently living apart - she has the house, I rent a room
Yes, I agree, it's a bit of fantasy, and a roundabout way of expressing that he's gonna miss the kids. Don't worry too much about it - a lot is gonna change in a year.
BUT - you CAN have a bit of fun with it.
he talked about the apartment he would get and I asked him how he was going to fit the kids and all their/his stuff in there. He responded with: "well, I don't have that much stuff. I mean, all my garage stuff will stay in there and I'll probably have to become more establishe in the guest room- but I could make it work.
"Oh, sweetie, I'm pretty sure my new boyfriend/husband is going to want that garage space for his own tools/truck/workbench/weight bench"
He rattled off some ideas that's he's already researched housing and the possibility of me staying in my current house
"Oh, sweetie, I was thinking perhaps I would move to California/Hawaii/Montana"
Real quick.... In my H's defense (very, very small defense)
When he said that he wanted primary custody for a year when he gets back, his reasons were because *I* (as in me, Purg) deserve it because I will have been a single parent for a year, and he thinks it's only fair that *I be given some free time while he takes on the majority of responsibilities.
When I went back and re-read my post, I can see how it appeared that he was saying how *he* deserved it and that it was fair to him.... And apparently that's how everyone took it. Not that I'd saying his reasons are any more logical than before, just wanted to clarify.
Given that, I still think he's being selfish and rediculous!! I have. I have no intention on dignifying his ideas with a reasponse anytime soon!
M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12
Also, from what I've seen of you as a mom.. How would it be fair to take them away from you for a year? (yes I realize you would have visitation and all...) I understand your H thinking that it would be nice for you to have that freedom but I guess he's forgotten that it isn't you who's unhappy being in a M and caring for your kids. Funny.. I don't think you feel the need to have a year off as primary caregiver.. You need a partner to co parent on an everyday basis.
I love the interesting logic the WAS have. At least it's good for a laugh or two.
Geez.. You might need 2 rabbits with all your free time!!
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11