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Yean primate person...by going back and forth on this you're actually doing yourself a favor. It makes sure you evaluate everything from all angles, and it really helps you know yourself so much better. Don't get down on yourself for this. Seriously, if you didn't agonize over this there would be something wrong.

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Originally Posted By: Rick1963
Mnky your W is very much like mine. In that they are done no more chances. pretty sad.


My H is just the same...And I believe him. Everything in him - his demeanor and his actions back up his words. So sad... :-(

(((hugs for us all)))


Me & H: 44
D7, D6, S3
Together: 20y, M: 17y
EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10
EA becomes PA: Spring 2011
H filed for D: 09/06/12
D Negotiating began 2/15
OW seemingly gone on 3/15
Still negotiating D






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Got served with D papers this morning...much needed closure?


Me: 44
Bomb: 11/27/11
Divorced:6/12
Life goes on: 6/13


Dogs still like bacon...a lot.
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So sorry but now you know the next step.

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Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
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Time to take care of yourself. We got your back buddy


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Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”

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so sorry sweetheart. (((( ray ))))


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Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3
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((Mnky)) I'm so sorry you're hurting. I hope more people will chime in and offer you support and words of wisdom.

This must feel like bomb day all over again. Just remember how far you've come and how good of a person you are. Don't let these papers stop you.

We're here for you.


Me:32 H:34 T:14.5 M:9.5 S:5 BD: 11/25/11


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I have not posted much, and by no means a vet or expert, but sorry to hear the news. I have a feeling I will be in the same boat in the next few months...but I try to take strength from the idea that D papers are just papers...and just another step along this road we call life.

There is a quote/philosophy I really tuned into and liked, I don't remember if it was MWD book or somewhere else, but I think it was based on Buddhism and it talked about a farmer who's horse ran away. neighbor said "what bad luck" farmer said "good luck, bad luck, who knows". next day the horse came back with 6 other fine horses, neighbor said "what good luck", farmer said "good luck, bad luck, who knows". the next day the farmers son was breaking in one of the new horses and it threw him off and broke his leg (neighbor/farmer reply), next day the army came recruiting and left son at home with broken leg... So we never really know what life will give us...and even the bad moments might turn out to be something good in the end. Keep working toward the good, improving yourself, making yourself happy, and good things will come from that.


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M:11 T:18
D1:6yo
D2&3:4yo (twins)
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Grumpy, you are not alone, we are here for you whatever time of day you need.

Your W is a fool!


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H 35
D5,D4
M 4
T 9
ILYBNILWY 5/18/11
Left 7/11/11
Divorced 12/1/13

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Hang it there, man. It does not mean it is the end. Just part of the process. I got mine back in September - two weeks after bomb dropped. The road has been long and winding since then - and it is not over. Chin up - it hurts, but it does not mark the end.

Keep posting.

Crimson

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