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[ClingingToHope]

I think it was blah because I was heading into a weekend with a couple of free nights. I like to be out and about and not in staring at the walls.

That is taken care of. Watching (not working) some high school basketball tonight and heading out with coaches (long-time friends) after.

Working tomorrow at two sets of games -- making $90. Then heading out with large group of friends tomorrow night.

Sunday catching up on work and a friend is coming over to help me fix a couple of things. Long needed repairs.

So now I'm excited.

Some developments to puzzle over.

XW called this morning to warn me house likely going into foreclosure. She was denied an emergency loan by her benefits provider because I hadn't filled out some questionnaire about the QDRO. That means it's still pending. I told her I don't remember receiving it. So she is going to try to fax me something.

She was trying to get caught up two payments on the house. She's three behind. So apparently she's trying to keep it.

A quick aside, I sent her an email three weeks ago saying because of my accident and the auto settlement, I have extra money and can pay the half of D12's dental bill this summer and D9's ADHD medicine. SHE'S LEGALLY ENTITLED TO IT yet she's never sent me anything. She didn't respond. That makes no sense.

Anyway, I asked if she's gone to the certified foreclosure counselor in town. I've been writing about this group for 10 years. She obviously doesn't read my stories. She said, "well, they require you to take a class and it was on a Saturday I had the girls so I didn't go."

It's a two-hour class. She couldn't get her mother to watch them or ask a friend?

I told her this group assigns you a counselor and the counselor makes the calls, and fills out the paperwork. Every time I hear a sob story at the paper I refer them to this group.

Sigh ....

So anyway, she's trying to keep the house and, if she actually uses the nonprofit group to help, she should be able to, which means the situation stays as is.

If it works out that way it'll be a relief.

Other development. My newer car will mean higher insurance payments by about $25 per month. The payment is $68 per month less, so I still come out ahead. Funny, they are refunding me $330 on the old policy so that'll help offset the $517 for the next six months. I am switching to monthly payments. $517 every six months is tough to save up for.

Funny, or not so funny, I was driving the newer car to a chiropractor appointment today because of the accident. After getting off phone with XW I was so distracted I nearly ran a light and t-boned a car. Luckily I skidded to a stop just in time.

Last thing. Prof-40 dropped off Match. Probably not a surprise because she has drama with unfinished divorce. Still, I hadn't heard from her since Tuesday so I wondered if she was withdrawing altogether.

I tried to call. No answer. I then sent her a Facebook request and she accepted. That's no small feat. She has just 45 FB friends. I sent her a FB message asking if she'd like to get together Sunday and haven't heard back.

It's hard to be patient, but there's nothing else I can do.

Chiropractor was interesting. I'm not a believer generally. I'm going because A) the other insurance company is paying for it and I have some nagging issues and B) the chiropractor is extremely pretty and I met her at a divorce class. At the very least I'm getting a massage from a pretty single woman for free.

She showed me an interesting X-Ray. I hold my head two inches too far forward likely from staring down at a computer screen all day.

So I came back to work and got some equipment and raised my screen about six inches so at least I'm looking directly at it.

Hey, at least I learned something.

[whatisis]

Um, why do you want to be involved with a woman (Prof-40) who "has drama from an unfinished divorce"? I'm thinking you're heading down a bad road here! Try and Asian social worker instead lol.

[SunFunOne]

Well said, Fig. So true.

Disappointing C2H no doubt but when she didn't answer - you should have left it. Who wants someone they're "considering" dating on their FB where they can see all their goings on. And Fig's point about her not being done with her issues making her not ready to date is right on too.

Are you through your divorce issues and ready to date freely?

Barb

[figgeroni]

not me Barb...Gineen said it but it was spot on...

[SunFunOne]

Duh - yeah! But right on!

Barb

[whatisis]

CTH, I still say go with the Asian social workers, they'll never dump you, just discharge you from their dating caseload and they'll always do a follow up phone call to ask "how does that make you feel?" ...and they document everything. It's all good.

[mishka422]

Hey CTH, remind me, what is that book you had read about a couple that D'd and then got back together? Is it "I Do Again"?

[ClingingToHope]

Yes. Mishka. It's "I Do Again." I really like that book. It gave me insight into what a WAS is thinking.

Prof-40 sent me a message asking if I'd picked up the second book in a series she suggested. I responded yes.

Now that basketball season has started, I have a ton going on and when busy I don't worry so much because there are few free nights anyway.

Christmas is taken care of. Saving for summer is going well. I just filled out my insurance stuff for next year. It'll be $8 less per check. That may not seem like much, but that's $200 for the year. It all adds up.

Yes Barb, I am through the divorce issues and ready to date.

Divorce drama locally. So XW calls a couple of times. The QDRO took the money from her 401(k) and not her pension. This is why she can't get an emergency loan to save the house.

She called the lady at my attorney's office. XW says they wouldn't give her what she needed and "weren't nice" to her "at all."

I asked if she needed me to call to give permission. She said yes.

So I called and the lady there said she expected my call after XW got done screaming at her.

Two different versions. I tend to believe the lady at my attorney's office.

Anyway, I just need to pick up a legal description of my/our property for the Quit Claim Deed, which they'll do for $75, and they'll fix the QDRO mistake for free.

I apologized to the lady at the office for having to go through that. I still owe these guys $1,350 and I'm paying it at the rate of $25 per check. I really don't want them mad at me.

D9 had a bad day at school and I may have contributed. She was late getting going this morning and there was a bit of a struggle. When we finally got going we discovered we'd left the dome light on the car and it was dead.

So I had to call a tow truck guy to start it and we got D9 to school 45 minutes late. Still, she doesn't do well with disruptions.

Interesting day.

[mishka422]

I asked because the model that walked into the airplane propeller this last weekend in Dallas is the daughter of that couple that wrote the book.

[ClingingToHope]

Oh, that's awful.

They had twin girls.