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Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? 2thepoint #2225954 02/29/12 12:22 PM
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purgatory Member P Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 825 Virginia	Fingers, toes, arms and legs all crossed for a smooth court day! Of it does become final today, does this mean it's only legal every 4 years?? Just sayin' M-31, H-31 T-9, M-7 S-6, s-20mth sep 8/1/11 ILYNILWY 11/29/11 Creating separation papers. Discover H has feelings for BFF, she does too 1/11/12 H moves out 1.20.12

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? purgatory #2225956 02/29/12 12:44 PM
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OP mr mr Member M Joined: Jan 2012 Posts: 201 Wisconsin	Thanks everyone. I couldn't face this morning without your prayers and support. Here we go! Michael Me:46 /W:37 M:13 /T:16 D's:19,18,17,6 S:10 W filed 8/15/11 Court 9/21/12 Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional.

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? mr mr #2226048 02/29/12 05:02 PM
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OP mr mr Member M Joined: Jan 2012 Posts: 201 Wisconsin	Sitting in the courtroom waiting to see if she brings OM. Is it weird that I am more afraid oc seeing them together than I am of this whole D process ? Michael Me:46 /W:37 M:13 /T:16 D's:19,18,17,6 S:10 W filed 8/15/11 Court 9/21/12 Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional.

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? mr mr #2226049 02/29/12 05:05 PM
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OP mr mr Member M Joined: Jan 2012 Posts: 201 Wisconsin	Well no OM and no D. All in all a day I can live with. I would have liked some closure, but that will have to wait. Michael Me:46 /W:37 M:13 /T:16 D's:19,18,17,6 S:10 W filed 8/15/11 Court 9/21/12 Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional.

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? mr mr #2226050 02/29/12 05:05 PM
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labug Member L Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 9,676 Sonoran Desert	???? need more info. Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13 Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? labug #2226089 02/29/12 06:37 PM
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OP mr mr Member M Joined: Jan 2012 Posts: 201 Wisconsin	No divorce while she is pregnant, Wisconsin has what is called paternal presumption, meaning that as far as the state is concerned I am the father. If we get divorced now I will be responsible for the next 18 years. After the baby is born and paternity tests are done then I can be released from that obligation and get a D. Quite a mess. Michael Me:46 /W:37 M:13 /T:16 D's:19,18,17,6 S:10 W filed 8/15/11 Court 9/21/12 Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional.

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? mr mr #2226091 02/29/12 06:41 PM
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RoRoinMD Member R Joined: Jan 2012 Posts: 871	Originally Posted By: mr mr No divorce while she is pregnant, Wisconsin has what is called paternal presumption, meaning that as far as the state is concerned I am the father. If we get divorced now I will be responsible for the next 18 years. After the baby is born and paternity tests are done then I can be released from that obligation and get a D. Quite a mess. So I get the no divorce while she's pregnant. Are you responsible for this baby while she is pregnant though? I know there is an OM in the picture, but could you be held responsible if he bails? Me:37 H:GONE Happy and loving life.

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? RoRoinMD #2226095 02/29/12 06:46 PM
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OP mr mr Member M Joined: Jan 2012 Posts: 201 Wisconsin	Yes I am responsible for the medical expenses during the pregnancy but so far that has been taken care of by W and OM. Hopefully that will continue. Michael Me:46 /W:37 M:13 /T:16 D's:19,18,17,6 S:10 W filed 8/15/11 Court 9/21/12 Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional.

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? mr mr #2226098 02/29/12 06:53 PM
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mimivac Member M Joined: Jan 2012 Posts: 158 Washington DC	Wow, you have been through the wringer. You're doing beautifully though. Sadness and frutration are part of the deal and necessary emotions to get through this whole thing. You will come out stronger and better on the other side. So glad that DBing has helped you to get on with your life. That's a wonderful gift, even if your marriage ends. Mimi M:37; H:37; M:10 years;T:13 years;no kids. Bomb ("I love you, but don't feel things for you I should":1/08/12 Separated (H living with various friends:1/18/12 Separated (H rented his own apartment:3/4/12

Re: Don't want to play anymore. Which way to the exit? mimivac #2226670 03/02/12 01:50 PM
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OP mr mr Member M Joined: Jan 2012 Posts: 201 Wisconsin	Funny thing is that ever since court W has been very nice. I wonder whar she wants? She also went to her first parent teacher conference EVER! (We have kids who have graduated already) Michael Me:46 /W:37 M:13 /T:16 D's:19,18,17,6 S:10 W filed 8/15/11 Court 9/21/12 Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional.

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