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Rick1963 #2225811 02/28/12 09:21 PM
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Hello everyone, time for a little journaling.
Moved out of my condo yesterday into a much smaller structure that can best be described as a bungalow. The rent is much more reasonable, about half of what I was paying for my old place.

In june of 2011, my w and I finally sold our one bedroom condo that we had lived in for 13 years. I had bought it in 1998 right before we met, and using the equity from it I was able to purchase outright a cabin in the Pennsy woods, plus buy back my active duty time with the Marines (most gov pension systems allow you to do that, and I am a county employee). I bought it at the bottom of the market and had enough equity left over at the sale that I was able to realize a small profit. After all the years that she wanted to move into a bigger place, we finally moved into a two bedroom place in June of 2011. It was two weeks later that she dropped the bomb.

So, now she is living in Ohio, renting a house next to her sister, and seemingly very happy. I, on the other hand, have been forced to downsize to a bungalow, which reminds me of 30 years ago, when I was a struggling graduate student living in cramped quarters in a not so nice part of town. Even though everyone who visits the place say it is "charming" I cant help being a little angry in that it seems I have gotten the worse end of the deal.

Oh well, guess weve all been there, just ranting.

On a happier note, got a nice birthday card from w yesterday. Unexpected but nice.
Hope you all are doing well, am continuing to follow your sitchs with great interest!


m 54
XW 48
m 12
t 14
bomb 6-11
s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
gunny #2225815 02/28/12 09:33 PM
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Good to hear from you Gunny. New surroundings bring new opportunities. 1/2 the rent means more money in your pocket to do things that you might not otherwise have been able to do before.

Live it up a little!

Oh, and Happy Birthday!


Me51 W53 S17 S14
M22 T25
Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11

It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife
2thepoint #2225818 02/28/12 09:40 PM
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Happy belated bday buddy. How far are you from your last place? Oh yes and the canal?


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Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24
Together 26 yrs
Married 16
W Filed for D 7/21/11
Served 9/6/11
D final 8/28/12

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Rick1963 #2225823 02/28/12 10:31 PM
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thanks 2 for the wishes, I will have a cold one with you in mind, hope you are well.

Rick, thanks for the bd wishes. New place is only 3 miles from the old one, 3 miles closer to work, 3 miles farther from canal. Not too bad. How are things with you?

Thanks for chiming in all,
Gunny


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s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
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Happy belated Birthday MARINE.


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Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55
D 30
S 27

You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
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Awww gunny, your wife and that move to Ohio. Who does that? (I moved away as soon as I could...sorry jb)

Great news on being able to buy back your time. We of a certain age understand the importance of that.

Happy Birthday!


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M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss
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Happy belated birthday, gunny!!

Originally Posted By: labug

(I moved away as soon as I could...sorry jb)

No need to apologize maybe I just can't get away. laugh


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Me:46 / W:47 / M:19 / T:21 / S13
Bomb#1: 5/8/2008
MC: 5/2008 - 4/2010
Bomb#2: 2/10/2011
W moves out 5/7/2011

'With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.' - Matt. 19:26
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Happy belated birthday!!


Me: 36
Her: 35
Together 7/09
Married 8/7/10
Separate rooms since at least April 11
"I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11
She moves out of state/files 2/7/12
Dissolution final 5/12
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Happy Belated Birthday Gunny.

Maybe your w is happier.. maybe not. Who knows? Who cares?

Your feelings of anger make sense and it seems like you aren't planning on staying focused on them.

Good for you!

Keep on Keeping on!


M(f): 40
D'ed: 8/12

Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.

Love at all costs because you are loved well.
Valeska19 #2226054 02/29/12 05:17 PM
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Thanks everyone for the BD wishes. My best to all!


m 54
XW 48
m 12
t 14
bomb 6-11
s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
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