Happy Thanksgiving. It was a good one here. We did make it up to my cousin's for Thanksgiving. We did go to Perkins. My uncle paid for it. Bonus.
It was fun catching. The best part is that the girls spent the day playing with their cousins. When it was over, we were saying goodbye and they were talking about next year and I reminded D12 that next year she'll be with her mom. She said "But I want to come here next year."
I dropped them off at their mom's at 8 p.m. I have to work tomorrow. She's off so by taking them there they can sleep in.
Nothing to complain about today.
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Tomorrow I take my daughters to the car lot to test drive a 2009 Hyundai Accent. I really wanted to buy a domestic car -- I deal with UAW people occasionally for my job and I didn't want the grief -- but in the $11,000 range this was just a better choice.
The car was listed at $10,989. I know the owner of the lot and asked if he could do tax title and license for $11,000. He came down to $11,107. That means I'll have $999 left over from the payoff of the car that was just totaled.
All in all a good deal.
Girls are over and have two friends staying the night. I've mostly stayed upstairs and let them roam free. D9 is doing soooo much better right now. A totally different kid from six weeks ago. Progress.
I worked until 6 p.m. and picked them up. XW had a couple of boxes of Christmas stuff for me. It used to be my mom's. I'm guessing she thinks this is a nice thing to do. I mean I forgot she had it and I know other X's would have just tossed it.
Me? I still struggle when she does that. I feel like I'm being chloroformed from the house.
I took the girls and their friends to a Christmas store to buy ornaments. We've been adding a handful each year to my tree -- a nice tradition separate from XW. At the store I just thought "choose joy."
So much is looking up lately. Just choose joy.
Things with prof-40 are at a standstill. She has that drama with her STBXH and she says she and her family has been sick.
Not much else I can do but wait. I have her number. If nothing in a week I'll call to say hi or see if I should just move on. I'm still toying with calling the DateHookUp girl who suddenly dropped out of contact three weeks ago. I'm just curious as to what happened.
This online thing is so ... frustrating at times.
Since I have a couple of extra bucks, I'm planning on taking the girls to the gym twice this weekend. We need to get moving again.
My main job is going well and my winter side job -- basketball scorekeeping -- starts Monday. So I'm going to be pretty occupied anyway for the next few months.
Life soldiers on.
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XW had a couple of boxes of Christmas stuff for me. It used to be my mom's. I'm guessing she thinks this is a nice thing to do. I mean I forgot she had it and I know other X's would have just tossed it.
It was a nice thing to do.
Everybody hurts. It's part of life. Don't miss the good stuff.
It's important to keep in mind that our ex's are not all good nor all bad, they're just people like you and me. They can do nice things and really crappy things. It's called being human I guess. Take the good when it comes and be grateful. hey, when my recent little romance with a lady suddenly got flushed my STBX came over, comforted me, gave me a hug and told me she cared. That was damn nice! How many guys would get that I wonder? Does it mean she's not a you know what at other times, nope! She is what she is, just as your ex is. It's just life.
Wii, I have a friend in New York who tried desperately to stay married -- like me. So when my drama began he helped me through a lot of stuff.
He told me a story similar to yours. He met someone through a Meetup group right before his divorce. They were together about 18 months and when that broke up his ex came over and they shared a bottle of wine.
I honestly can imagine XW doing that when that inevitably happens to me. She WANTS to be my friend. I know right now I wouldn't take it well.
Maybe some day.
Interesting day. D12 woke up sicker so D9 and I went to church. I then took D9 to a friend's house and texted XW asking if she'd take D9 tonight. I wanted to keep them separate so hopefully D9 doesn't get sick.
So it was just D12 and me tonight and she had lots of questions. She asked about Match, because I've left my screen up a couple of times, and I told her I've been out with three different women so far and really, really liked a fourth.
She was surprised. She knew I was doing lots of stuff when they weren't around, but she didn't think I'd gone out with anyone. I told her I wasn't going to introduce them to anyone until I was sure they were going to be around a while.
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I picked up my car today. A 2009 Hyundai Accent. The payment is nearly $70 less per month than prior car so my actual paycheck will increase for the first time in more than a year.
Hey, that's progress.
Prof-40 messaged me. She's feeling better. This weekend we're both kid free so hopefully she'll propose getting together. We'll see.
I was at my winter second job of basketball score keeping. She was unsure where the kids were. I explained I couldn't pick either of them up because I had to pick up my car.
She started to go into why this was such a inconvenience when I cut in and said, "I'm sorry. I should have told you my schedule. I have to go though."
She said OK. And we hung up.
My neck is really hurting today and that strange sensation on my teeth is still there. Both are results from the accident. I'm seeing a chiropractor tomorrow and a dentist on Thursday.
I'm not the biggest believer in chiropractors, but I've also never tried one. The one I'm going to see is a really pretty lady I met through divorce class. Hey, I wanted to see if it would help and I won't mind seeing her again. Bonus.
The dentist asked me to come in after I explained to him what I was feeling. This feeling in my teeth is too weird to just let go.
I also haven't been able to go to the gym for four weeks. I feel like a blob -- although I've probably gained just five pounds.
It's really strange that 2011 is almost over. I remember reading a book on divorce right after moving out in May 2009. The writer of the book said it took him four years to get back on his feet financially.
That spooked me. But I'm finishing up year three and I'm just starting to feel solid ground under my feet. I'm sooooo glad there's so much time between me and the bomb.
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