The snooping isn't going to serve any purpose except twist you up further. You already know the worst, so its basically masochistic if you keep doing it.
Can you save your marriage?
Short answer? Yes.
Get Divorce Remedy and read it.
Fireproof?
The movie, not something I'd recommend watching with the wife.
It's touching and sweet and if your life WAS a movie, it might work.
Basically, you have seen her react positively toward you, what were you doing when those things happened?
Patterns, find patterns between your actions and her reactions.
I HOPE more people start dropping by, as for moderation...
DB can you unmod him?
Click notify and ask her. : )
Yeah, I tried to unmod him (and a couple of others) a few days ago, but my internet kept going out when I clicked.
Oh, and one sure way for them to be hesitant of your changes is for you to tell her you changed.
This is very true. Just show her the changes. I know you're not in the same place with her, but you can show her just through interactions. Just do it, don't talk about it.
Originally Posted By: Country_Song
I sense that you got pretty excited about her initiating a little more contact and you overreacted. Pushed too much.
You can see by her reaction that you overwhelmed her.
Yes, I agree with CS. It seemed like she opened the door a bit and you just came right at her. It seemed like she started backing off toward the end of the conversation because she may have been overwhelmed.
You can do this, mgm. Slow and steady though. It's a marathon, not a sprint. Or 1st & 25 - you don't have to get all the yards back on this down - you have a couple more.
Yea I think you're both right. I did get a little excited as I saw her responding some. I have to stay a little more mellow. And it must've have been just that because I haven't heard a word from her since she was supposed to contact me after the dinner. So maybe I set things back some.
All the same, I've got to march forward. I went to dinner with a friend and his fiance this evening and we had a good time talking. I'm planning on finding some stuff to get into tomorrow just to continue to try my GAL process.
Country - I'll give you a hint...I was in college from 2002-2006 (I redshirted so I was there for 5 seasons). I don't know if you picked up on the locations I mentioned in earlier posts but that's a hint as well because I still live in the state where I grew up and went to college....
I tried punting on this thing...feel like I was just given a roughing the kicker penalty because the other team tried to take me out and now I'm back to 1st down again. But I'm going to progress and in much healthier ways.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
One quick hitter - Do I attempt to reach back out and ask again about the house situation or just wait closer until August to bring it up if she doesn't mention it to me? I kind of feel like I should wait until I hear from her again because I may have overwhelmed her and don't want to add fuel to the fire.
mid 20s Tgther 7 yrs W EA 04/12/11 PA 04/23/11 W filed 05/11/11 I moved out 08/05/11 Mediation mid Oct 11 D final Dec 11 Now what? ...2012
