Ok I know Michelle really explains things very easily in her writting which is one of the reasons I love reading her book. I do not want to sound stupid here...so please be kind...but I still cant see if my "goals" are complaint's or as she says "Think about what you want in your marriage, not what is missing." But that is my problem....b/c what I want and whats missing go hand in hand?
TRUST....
Can my goal be "wanting to be in a trusting, honest relationship"
I just feel like how could I not want the thing I feel is missing? Isnt that that same thing?
What are the symptoms of the missing trust/honesty? Those should be your goals. Something more tangible. That way the goal is something reachable and quantifiable.
M-34 W-31 2 S,11&11 1 D, 6 T 13 YEARS M 12 YEARS ILYBINILWY OCT. 2009 We are too close. All we see are smears of paint. The Lord sees the masterpiece He is painting.
You ask yourself,"What does a trusting, honest relationship look like? What would we be doing?" It might look something like this:
1. We would have a feeling-based conversation twice a week after/over a nice dinner. 2. We would have access to each other's email accounts. (I'm not saying this is desired, I'm saying this might be how you might right a goal to concretely show honesty. I'm not actually suggesting that you have this access.) 3. He would give me access to his paycheck information (disclaimer similar to the above).
