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Tupy is probably the only one I've seen on exposure and I haven't been able to find actual books written by her. There is an article and some You Tube interviews. I've been spending some time while the site's been down looking this up.

Now I'm faced with a situation that no one in my life wants me to fight for my marriage. My WH is closer than ever to OW. D is in progress.

I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. However, I sometimes question the reason. Right now I'm wondering why I was allowed to be exposed to exposure for 2 months before the step in. I couldn't have been the first. I've been doing a lot of soul searching not being able to log on here.

I just want to stop working on affair busting and work on me, my son and making sure our future is good.


Me:38 H: 45
OW:34
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Lovehurts,

It's not too late to try a different tactic.
Exposure didn't work for you.
Are you ready to try something else?


There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
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Lance,
Thanks smile


There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
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Originally Posted By: brandnewday
Lance,
Thanks smile
Given the new guidance by out feerless leader.
I think I am going to pursue other books other than those I was reading.
FTR, I couldn't find much support in the "Not Just Friends" book either.

But I will let that whole subject die.

Thanks BND!!!! smile smile smile

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Originally Posted By: lovehurts

Now I'm faced with a situation that no one in my life wants me to fight for my marriage.


I'm not so sure about that? I bet I can name a few who do.

Your friends and family see you hurting, it is natural for them to want that to stop.


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I just want to stop working on affair busting and work on me, my son and making sure our future is good.


I agree, work on what you have control over. Your situation is far from over.


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In regards to reading his emails... you are correct. It can easily turn into an unhealthy obsession.

I know you've addressed this on another thread.

Work hard at stopping, you know what you know, and there isn't really anything more to gain from it.

Your imagination and assumptions will almost always make things worse as well.


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Lance,

In my case, the exposure of my affair by my wife was effective to an extent. It blew the lid off the fantasy and secrecy and caused me to pause a bit and reflect on what I was doing.

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The culling/reaping across the board of wise and guy posters brought me out...for a bit.

Love you too BND. How is Cali?



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Doing awesome smile
Thanks for asking.
S16 came 3rd in his last XC State meet.
I am so in awe of the man he is becoming smile
This was the kid with all of the anger issues and problems.
The rest of the troop is amazing.
I am blessed!


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Love

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I just want to stop working on affair busting and work on me,

Then just start to work on YOU.

It really is that simple.

Oh...and I agree with trapt...it ain't over to the fat lady sings.

Eric


"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter".
"Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!"
"Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
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