lol! Jeff, I guess that 20 years older than me counts as an old fogey! Maybe that was harsh but he really is almost 60.
CW- I know...and it is almost 18 months now since stbxh left for OW. ?????????? I think the reason he does a lot around the house is plain old guilt. Cuz he knows what a scumbag he is.
As for the old coger, I think I will say something like
"Thank you for the invite--I am flattered! But honestly, I prefer to date men closer to my age. Take care!" what do you think?
kat- that is a nice way to reject! The only problem is that I see these guys again at different meetups so it can be akward if they see me flirting with someone and I told them that I wasn't ready to date. If it were me being rejected,and I saw the guy flirting with some other woman, I would feel a little insulted like "why didn't you just tell me that you weren't interested?" But it is a good one for those dates on match where odds are that I won't see the guy around town!
speaking of...I am getting the urge to go look on match tonight!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
lol! If I were 40 something I wouldn't think of him as a fogey! Here is what I said:
Hi, Fogey! I do remember you and your son! Truthfully, I am interested in dating men closer to my age (I am 34) due to my previous dating experiences so far :-) BUT THANK YOU for the invite- it made me feel good! Take care, Newmama.
I hope that wasn't too harsh...
OK and on a totally different subject, I just watched something on Nightline about a female arousal product called Vestra but they aren't allowed to advertise it!
you can have commercials about viagara where men are getting an erection and they show men and women sitting in bathtubs side by side...at any time of the day (right? when kids are awake?)but Vestra (a product for female arousal--yeah did you know one existed?! ) is trying to advertise on commercials too..but are being rejected 95% time because the networks are saying that they "don't do this category" but yes they DO! DUH!
So the Vestra marketing people have even edited their language in the ad without saying "sex or sexual" and were still rejected because they were not comfortable airing the ad!
Women are not allowed to have sex or be sexual because we are a bunch of sluts if we admit it, huh? I think if you sleep with a married man, have serial one night stands, allow men to come in and out of your home when you have children...yeah that is pretty slutty. AS IT IS FOR MEN who do that!
Why can't women be allowed to "celebrate" their sexual health? We can't talk about female sexual arousal but can say ERECTION "don't let erectile dysfunction get in the way.."
Was it because Bob Dole came out and said he had ED? (why? I can't remember why he shared that TMI)
Maybe we need someone like Hillary Clinton to tell us how she needs extra help getting aroused since she started menopause.
This is the explicit language that was originally in the ads for Vestra: "women are starting to talk about vestra...wanting more sexual satisfaction..." versus "KY plus is a gel that is proven to intensify female satisfaction..." (and shows a man and woman in bed (clothed) but looking dazed and have messy hair)
ok. gonna go chew some ice now.
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
OK I am teasing too much, aren't I? NOT OLD FOGEY like rocking on the front porch and holding an earhorn up asking "eh?"
I will modify my language and just say "an older gentleman"
sorry to any classy men that I may have offended!
btw he replied and said "I understand. Being 55 I am at the older end of the single parents group so it can be a stretch finding someone from the group to date. But you never know unless you ask! See you around."
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
That sounds like a really good response from both of you!
I really don't know where the young end of what I would date is. It almost seems that the decision might be more up to the younger person than the older one. But I don't think I would be really comfortable with under about 35. But if someone younger was interested, I don't know that I would say no, for that matter.
I set my match level at 30. Really, if I somehow found someone less than 30 and we hit off and got married, at 10 years I'd be back in that divorce danger range of 36-40.
I was out tonight and there was a younger crowd and the 20 somethings looked good, but I kept thinking they don't really know how hard all this crap really is.
I'd really rather find someone in the 34-38 range.
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