I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[Mrs. A]

NM, I just tried to send you a message on the alt and *it* got blocked! Blocking is my life story!!!!!

[newmama]

I got your message, Mrs. A!

Did my 20 minute pilates work out last night and can feel it this morning!


When I woke up, I looked at my phone and noticed a text from zoobrew around 12 a.m. asking if I was still up.

Going to the beach until Sunday...have a lot to pack!

Stay well, my friends!

[Mystik]

Hope you have a great time at the beach. In about a week and a half it will be my turn there.

[Gardener]

nm,
Have a great time away!

Peace,

[gatsby11]

I wish I was doing pilates!

Have fun at the beach, NM.

[newmama]

Wow, I had a truly fabulous time at the beach! First off, I mentioned that I was nervous to take S there as a single parent. But it was only rocky in the beginning when I first arrived and couldn't really unpack or anything because my friends weren't there to help watch S.

Now when I arrived, the house on the outside was gorgeous, right on the lakeshore, with a private dock and backyard that had a fire pit with plenty of folding chairs.

The inside....well, the bedrooms for my friends were HUGE and we had 3 bathrooms for all 10 of us so it was good. But my room, for S and I, was apparently a "smoking" room. The stench was so thick it reminded me of a casino. We used tons of air freshener, which I know has tons of chemicals but so does carbon monoxide and the other cancer causing toxic stuff in cigarette smoke.

Also, the floors looked like they hadn't been swept or mopped since the last guests and the carpet was definitely not vacuumed! There were spider webs and dead bugs in the windowsills. BUT the bathroom sinks, toilets, and showers were clean!

I called my friends when I arrived and described it. When they finally got there, they actually said it wasn't as bad as they expected. So we got over it, and had fun swimming in the lake, taking the boat out, going to the crazy park that was right next door, going on various hikes, and eating some good food- I had barbecued oysters for the first time! So good when you dip them in garlic butter sauce, lol!

And we had a campfire every night. The first night's theme of conversation had to do with being a stepparent, divorced families, kids setting up fake accounts on myspace. The second night's theme was spiritual experiences and ghostly paranormal experiences. The third night's theme was planning for natural disasters and how bad Katrina was.

We all took turns watching the kids, playing with the kids, feeding the kids. It was awesome!


OH and stbxh was acting pretty weird...I will explain on the next post.

[newmama]

AND zoobrew sent me a text on Friday night asking me how my time was going. He said he and his kids were in the mountains for the next few nights. So I don't know if that means TONIGHT, but I will not expect to see him. I replied briefly, asked a Q and he replied. I decided to text him tonight to ask how his trip was going and that I came home and was working on unpacking. Still waiting for a reply...sent it 45 minutes ago. I mean I am doing plenty of other things! So I am not WAITING per say, but you know what I mean.

[newmama]

So about stbxh....he took some furniture that he said he was going to take. I came home to see the place looked a little different, but not much. I did feel a little teary.

Side note- I also felt teary when I was on my way to the beach house trip because this was a tradition my friends and I started when I met stbxh.

My friends mentioned him like he had died or something- a couple of times they said things like "stbxh could fix anything!" or " stbxh was always so good at helping out without being asked" or "stbxh did excellent work on your house" or "stbxh would have loved these water activities we're doing!"

OK so stbxh came to pick up S. He walks up to the door, just closing his phone. He said "my mom called to say she is coming in 2 weeks. Great. She didn't ask as usual."

I just thought "well at least it's not MY problem anymore!"

He told me the things he took this weekend and he said "I just don't want you to think I was leaving this for you to deal with." I said "ok. I don't really think that. " BUt I was not interested in talking about it.

Then he asks how S did on the trip and I told him some of the fun things he got to do. I mentioned that the spray sunscreen is bad because they found that babies breathe it into their lungs so the toxic crap (that is in practically every sun screen) gets into the body more readily. So he said "ok, so we won't be using that then. right?"

He seemed curious about the trip-said a few times "so he had fun, huh? everything was ok? the trip went well?" I think he missed it! I really do!

Then he asked me about the yard...he said "what's your opinion- I think we need to trim that tall tree because it's so close to the house. I could get a quote from someone to come and do it. What do you think?"

I really think "I could give a crap since YOU agreed to be the one in charge of the yard stuff and you said 3-4 months ago that you were going to put grass in the yard and lay down bark chips. BUt you have yet to do it. But you like to repeat it a lot."

But I said "Well, I guess it looks pretty dangerous to try and do it yourself. I guess it would be smart to get someone to cut it."

And he had put S in the car. S was waiting, I was trying to unload my car and get on with my evening. Then he goes into the garage and asks about painting the bathroom.

The night he delivered the D papers, I had been painting the hallway bathroom. I stopped of course, and never even rinsed out the roller or the paint tray. I put it on the work bench and left it there. So the roller is rock hard stiff, stuck to the tray,and I just haven't dealt with it yet.

He asks me if I want him to get a gallon of paint so I could finish the bathroom. He said he would do the trimming part. I just said "well, ok, but I don't know if I need a whole gallon."

And finally I had to be the one to say "well, I gotta go because I need to unpack and take a shower and stuff."

Hmm. I did put a box of the love letters I wrote him in the office. I didnt see them in the garbage. Did he see the teeny piece of condom wrapper I left on the floor in the bedroom? Because I left the door open so that my new bedding and paintings and very clean bedroom were on display!

[gatsby11]

My friends mentioned him like he had died or something- a couple of times they said things like "stbxh could fix anything!" or " stbxh was always so good at helping out without being asked" or "stbxh did excellent work on your house" or "stbxh would have loved these water activities we're doing!"

Sad. Sorry, it's just the place I'm at now.

But I love the condom wrapper part!

[courageous wife]

Hi NM!!! Glad you and S had a great time!

Interesting how long your H stayed talking....