I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Just came back from watching "Eat, Pray, Love" and feel kind of deep and a little morose, I guess.

I admit that I didn't read the book, I didn't know much about the story line other than the main character is a WAW. So I kind of had a chip on my shoulder going in.

But it was really, really good. I think an alternate title could have been "Pursuing a Dream, Forgiving Yourself, and Daring to Love Again."

(kinda wordy, though- Eat, Pray, Love is much simpler!)

So I went alone, and waited in line outside the auditorium behind a group of ladies. I had my choice of seating but the theater soon filled up so I ended up in between a married couple in their 40s and a married couple in their 70s.

What was surprising is that the old couple were kind of bickering before the movie and the younger couple were all smiles. Then, during the movie, the old guy directly on my right was laughing and making comments to his old wife. The wife of the younger couple was crying at different parts (as was I) and I was surprised that her H didn't touch her arm or something, like stbxh used to do to me. I saw her reach her hand out to hold his and he held it for like 5 seconds, then dropped it to get his drink and never picked it up again.

Well, I was also not expecting not to relate much to the main character except for the usual cliche stuff like how she is discovering her true self post divorce (short marriage btw), and has a fling... but I felt wiser than her because she let herself start a relationship with the man.

I definitely got the travel bug after watching it!

Also, Julia Roberts TRULY did a terrific job acting! I tend to think of her as a character actress but she was amazing as Erin Brokevich so I knew she had "it" in her to truly act like a different person. The other thing was that because I could relate to many of the feelings and situations that the main character was going through, I could TELL if Julia was accurately portraying the scenarios.

I won't say much else about it in case I spoil anything, but I do recommend it highly for those of us here...even the men folk!

[newmama]

On a positive note, I went into my new classroom to do an inventory and just walk around. I let S crawl about and he loved it. MY CLASSROOM WAS AWESOME!!!!!!! I swear I felt the same high that I did last week after zoobrew!

Ok well, not exactly the same, but DAMN CLOSE!

And about that...argh! I am getting impatient but my gut still tells me NOT to call or text and that I will hear from him (just to talk if nothing else)

[courageous wife]

Hi Nm

Sounds like you are excited to get back to work!

The kids and I went and saw "Dinner for Schmucks" tonight...needed to see a comedy and had a few belly laughs! It was PG 13 but ok for kids my kids' age and some of the more adult jokes went right over their heads! There was a preview for "Eat, Pray, Love"...it does look good! Good for you for going to it alone! I have never done that!

Hey, I wish you lived closer to me! I have a brother that has never been married! He makes a good living...is my kids favorite Uncle, makes good money and has been very supportive of me even though he STRONGLY disapproves of what my H has done to us! I think you will do fine "out there" when you are ready!!!

[newmama]

Thanks, CW! I love comedies and was wondering about that movie, Dinner for Shmucks. The previews kind of reminded me of "Dumb and Dumber" in some ways!

Man, I sure am feeling extra lonely tonight and wish I could chat on the phone with my girlfriends...but they are busy with their husbands and kids! ah well, I won't be lonely forever. Gee, I don't have PMS so where are these mood swings coming from?

[ClingingToHope]

My daughter wants to see the vampire spoof movie. I am in no way going to see Eat, Pray, Love even though I love Julia Roberts. Not ready to see a divorced wife move on so easily.

I'm toying with saving all my posts here somewhere so perhaps I could write the post-divorce recovery from a male perspective.

[whatisis]

I'm toying with saving all my posts here somewhere so perhaps I could write the post-divorce recovery from a male perspective.

Save mine too, to get the inane perspective!

[newmama]

C2H, DO IT!!!! Seriously, we see female divorce perspective a lot more! I really think you should do it...what would your title be?

Oh, and NO, she (Julia Roberts character) DOES NOT move on so easily. I had the same thought you did, believe me, but I decided to watch it in order to preview it because some teacher girlfriends of mine wanted to watch it for "girls night out" next week. Well I have told them nil about the real situation, and I was not about to sit there with them while blubbering or wanting to walk out or be all emotional. I think I would watch it again.

[newmama]

tell me your opinions: how long do I wait until I text zoobrew?

I want to get my ring back and I want to know what happened with his exgirlfriend. I guess the 2nd is none of my business, and I truly honestly don't have future expectations for anything with him.

I know I said I think he will still call me, but the reason I am wondering if I should initiate contact is that after our 2nd date, I was the one who initiated and he let me know what he was thinking/feeling. It makes me wonder if it would be a good thing for me to initiate again.

I was thinking maybe of texting him tomorrow... is that too soon?
Since I don't want anything relationship wise, I wonder if I can throw out the whole "pursuing" thing and just be up front!

I want my ring back before school starts in September.

[Seeing Red]

I'd wait a few more days and if you haven't heard from him, text him about the ring.

[Mystik]

The previews for Eat, Pray, Love did look good, thanks for the LBS review of it. I'll add it to my "want to see" list.

I agree with Seeing Red, if ZooBrew doesn't contact you in the next few days text him to ask about getting your ring back.