I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[CityGirl]

I must be dumber than a box or rocks because until this site I never knew watching a movie was code for THAT! This is good information to know!

NM - if he doesn't call hate the player, not the game!

[newmama]

look, I don't know for sure if it is universal, but my friends and I (seriously) have all had the experience of when you finally go to someone's house and watch a movie with them...one thing leads to another...

Of course we are a bunch of hussies(my fellow married mothers)

but that even happened to a guy friend of mine this very weekend! He invited the woman he is dating to come over and watch a movie and bada bing bada boom!

So the other thing is that zoobrew, being the best guy for a fling, I tell you, sent me a text saying good morning...and that I left some things over there! So I have replied (but was also getting S ready) and said a few things but one was just "yeah..I realized it this morning when I went to put my ring on!"

Now he is supposed to say "well guess you better come get it" or something like that, haha!

[CityGirl]

NO!!!!!!!!!!!

Tell him to bring them to you. Along with a present that is edible and delicious!

Maybe I better order NetFlix!!!

[newmama]

GOOD IDEA, CG! I think if he does say anything about getting my things I will tell him that he'll have to drop them off!

My BFF said "Newmama, I admire you! You are doing a fantastic job of letting this man pursue you...no pressure, no neediness..."

but then she also thinks he is a good catch. I said that he is, but due to timing in my life and his, it is not something that I am considering so don't bug me about it.

[CityGirl]

Did he ever tell you if anything more happened with his exGF?

I wouldn't tell him he has to drop them off - see if he offers!

Now I am curious because I think somebody on this thread said you were supposed to leave something there... that went over my head. What are you SUPPOSED to leave there?

God - if you ever see a post from me titled "911, CityGirl is hiding in the closet waiting for feedback" *somebody* answer ASAP. Because it will be on a date (you know, watching a movie) having NO idea what to do next. I will be looking at my pepper spray instructions wondering what I am supposed to be leaving behind wondering if I am supposed to be WATCHING a movie or just 'watching' a movie! LOL!

[Mrs. A]

Cracking me up, CG!!!!

[courageous wife]

Geez NM! What in the heck happened while I was working my rear off this weekend??? Is it possible to be happy for you, wanting to caution you and be a little envious all at the same time? Cause that is how I feel!

[newmama]

CG- you are correct- I won't mention my things at all...let him bring it up! I don't remember hearing it is good to leave stuff. I know that it can be a manipulative ploy some people use to ensure seeing the person again but I think that is waaay too much game playing (unless we are talkign DBing with a spouse, I guess).

CW- yes, being cautious is wise...I am thinking of it like this:
wow, that was fun (REALLY FUN) seeing zoobrew and if I never see him again, I am still grateful for the experience! Also I tell myself "this rendezvous/fling/tryst etc. will come to an end soon!" Hopefully that will help me to prepare for when it is over!

Also, I have to say that today I had a weird burst of energy and was able to clean like I haven't in months! Gee, wonder where that came from?

[BobbiJo]

Hmm...well I do know in college if a guy asked you to come watch a movie it at least meant a good makeout session...did that a time or three but not actual sex.

I need to remember that if any guy asks me that any time soon!

[newmama]

No- not my WEDDING ring! I bought another ring to wear on y right hand- my "single woman/new life" ring!

And I forgot to say, CG, that at the time I saw zoobrew, he hadn't talked to his exG yet.