So the zipline group...always like to share about my fellow divorced parents...
One man had a 20 year old, 16 yr old and 14 yr old son. He had grey hair but was in good shape. I guess his mid 40s? He was flirty and fun! It was his first meetup. He talked to me a lot but just about light stuff. I didn't share much other than I hadn't started dating yet.
Another man was probably in his late 40s. He had a 12 year old and a 9 year old. He was very adventurous...into rock climbing. he made the comment that he thinks online dating profiles make it possible for the women to be too picky...like if they see someone likes country western music but they don't like it, they immediately discount you. I get what he was saying...he also said that he thinks just because he hasn't done something they have, that it is an opportunity for him to learn it or try it with them. I get that!
There was a 28 year old voluptuous and very pretty woman who had lots of star tattoos and she had a 3 year old son. She ziplined UPSIDE DOWN! And was the life of the party. She said her dating experience has been pretty bad because the men immediately wanted to sleep with her and send dirt text messages. I asked her age range, she said 26-38.
The other woman was in her late 30s. She had a 3 year old and 7 year old and was recently divorced. She was the petitioner. She said her exh just started acting really nice and being agreeable...he was pissy and angry for awhile.
Well we might get together for a poker party next! I will find out more about their stories in the future...
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me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
At the BBQ it was strange because here I was, the single woman AGAIN. My friends met their spouses in their early-mid 20s. They have been with them for the last 11 years. I was transported to life 6 years previous...S was with stbxh and they were trying to be light hearted but said "woo hoo-- no kid responsibilities tonight. Lucky you!"
I suppressed my sadness and just said "yeah, gotta embrace the silver lining. Not to mention S gets twice as many b-day parties right?"
I kind of felt left out even though these were my best of friends. I know I am young but it still is rough "starting over" in life. Again, I know others have it worse, starting over after 10+ years of marriage.
It still sucks. I will accept it eventually.
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
I kind of felt left out even though these were my best of friends. I know I am young but it still is rough "starting over" in life.
I hear you newmama. I am finding it quite socially weird to start hanging out with my beloved mama friends. It doesn't feel the same because there is such a huge gap in my experience and theirs. When you're single and you hang out with married people, you see so clearly how the lives of married people are so deeply interlinked.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
NM, totally agree with the rock climbing guy about what the online dating does. You have so many choices at your fingertips. If you were a non-commital type you'd probably be OK by casually dating lots of people and then see if you can find the one. However, if you wanted to find the one right off the bat, it'd be tough IMHO.
Starting over is tough...I think it's tougher for guys because girls tend to be a lot pickier. Like me I'd just want a 'normal' everyday girl who was somewhat cute- that'd be a great start. I wouldn't care about her income as long as she can pay her own bills (initially anyway). Her career, education, job, family etc wouldn't matter to me either as long as she was invested in me and we did things together.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Starting over is tough...I think it's tougher for guys because girls tend to be a lot pickier. Like me I'd just want a 'normal' everyday girl who was somewhat cute- that'd be a great start. I wouldn't care about her income as long as she can pay her own bills (initially anyway). Her career, education, job, family etc wouldn't matter to me either as long as she was invested in me and we did things together.
Well I hope there are other men who feel the same as you who live by me! Because this sounds like me! And you might want to check into teachers,then, because most of the teachers I have worked with are like this!
So here is what I have seen men request: a woman who is not afraid to get dirty, go snowboarding in the day, hang in a dive bar, dress up for a nice dinner in the town, be wild in the bedroom. Wow, what a dream girl!
But I was thinking that although I am a clutz when it comes to sports, I could get better at being more masculine with using tools, fixing stuff....and being more daring...
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
Happy belated b-day to your son! And very cool on your adventure with the zip line!
I have become very handy! My stepdad got me a HUGE toolkit and bless his heart, he sat down with me for days showing me how to use each tool. I even have a big set of my own drill bits AND I know how to choose the right one to use!
He has taught me basic electrical/plumbing work. Now he is teaching me about cars. So far I learned to change a tire, change the oil, check the fluids (who knew there were so many to check? LOL!) and how to jump the battery (scary!).
My toolkit is pink and I love it! I have a mini latter and safety goggles and all of that good stuff!
Last night I snaked my bathroom drain (disgusting, if you can find a boy to do this then by all means take advantage of that!).
Happy belated b-day to the baby! The years go by SO fast! Glad all went well for you.
And GabbysMom - I too remember WH holding my hand while I gave birth. All good memories! Hard to believe they could go through that amazing experience, and then turn and run. It literally makes me "See Red."
Gabbysmom - you sound a lot like me. I am 28 and all my friends are married. We all got married around the same time, and had our first children within a year of each other so like you and NM, I understand feeling awkward around the others, but they are trying to find me a new guy. They are very sweet and the husbands (all like my brothers because they are all my brother's friends from high school) help take care of S and be a good role model for him.
It is awesome that you are having fun and although the zipline guy was 19, it is definitely a confidence booster to have him choose you.
Enjoy S!
Me29 S3 H left 4/1/09 I file 8/2/10 Divorce final 5/17/11 1st http://www.tinyurl.com/25lhu52 2nd http://www.tinyurl.com/2c35ueg 3rd http://www.tinyurl.com/322yk89
Well I have no interest in learning about cars, but learning to fix a leaky pipe, putting together furniture, installing towel racks, using electric drills/screw drivers...that sounds good!
And a tool belt is a great idea! I should get one!
Seeing Red-- the good guys are here on DB forum...they are many of the LBHs! But I don't want the chauvanistic ones...lol!
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
NM, you'll find guys like me everywhere...when you're ready.
CG, that's awesome! What's not to love about a girl that has her own toolbox and of course, CG is really cute too...
STBXW is pretty handy herself and after 10 years of being with me her knowledge of car mechanicals far exceeds most guy's. She can tell you the difference between a Torsen Diff and a Helical Diff
NM, here's all you ever wanted to know about the household fixes and more:
Get yourself a starter toolset from Sears and a cordless drill/driver and you're ready to rock and roll. I don't think a toolbelt's necessary really.
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Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
