the path of the LBS

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bumping for newbies

[braveheart]

Interesting thread. I don't agree that all the LBS go through the stages outlined. I don't think its as defined as K-R stages. Not to say that the stages listed here are wrong, its just that I feel that many people do not complete them. Does that make sense? So many people who go through this and A divorce are never able to recover. Many stay in the anger stage, some stay in denial, others still in withdraw. During this process, the MLC spouse is so mean to the LBS they are never able to trust another person again. I'm just trying to point out that although the stages posted here are accurate and pretty sound, many never navigate through them.

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I agree, braveheart. Hopefully we can all get through things and not be bitter forever, you know.

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BND, I am bumping because I get it now.

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bumping in case it helps anyone

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I was thinking about Hearts Blessings comments that we go through same stages as MLCer, only probably faster.

Right now, I am thinking about where I was last year this time and I was still angrier than I cared to admit.

I feel like overall I am still depressed but I am definitely forging my own life more than I was this time last year and have moved, if not towards rope-drop, then certainly waivering between rope-drop and depression. I

[sleeper]

I'm no longer angry but today I was thinking about my future life without X. I can't see myself in another marraige. It's a combo of still loving my X and I don't have the energy to start over again.

I can be happy alone, if necessary.

Maybe that's why I haven't dated.

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Sleeper, I am feeling much the same way. That is real detachment, I think.

I feel as if I am getting to know myself again, thouugh, and I am liking that.

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bump. Noticed this was a topic again....

[Cadet]

Forward,

Thanks for bumping this up. I am going to link it to the other thread