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#1907212 - 01/03/10 01:34 PM Re: Always interesting if nothing else! [Re: Deep]
Sanderika Offline
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Registered: 06/25/08
Posts: 761
Hey there Deep,

Congrats on the new baby boy!!!!!!

It's good for the heart and soul to read about another poster's
journey back into happiness with his family.

I wish you, your wife and children a very healthy, loving and
happy 2010!!!!!

Sanderika
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T 33y
M 28y
S16
OW 8/7/05
Bomb 8/16/05
Sep 9/05
H f'd D 10/3/08
D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09
D dismissed 2/5/10
H served me D papers again 9/4/10
D dismissed 9/26/11

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#1907216 - 01/03/10 01:43 PM Re: Always interesting if nothing else! [Re: dolphin_05]
Sanderika Offline
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Registered: 06/25/08
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Hi Cas,

I am proud of you for organizing the trips for "you".

I wish I were in a position to do the same. I have a young son and am not in a time or place for the freedom.

YES, 2010 will be about you!!!!

After this journey of pain, you deserve to be happy and free.

Your health is once again good and you should take advantage of "your" time.

H can "go pound sand", as we say here, it's his loss and one I am sure he will realize soon enough.

IMO the marinated cheese was a simple gesture of friendship. I believe he knows you like it and was thoughtful enough to share it with you. No more and no less.

IMO they really do care about us and want the best for us. They just can't seem to come back to us and the family. It's time to move forward.....long overdue.

Hindsight is 20/20 and after this we should have seen the writing on the wall long ago.....We are romantics at heart and made the choice to fight for what we loved. We are good people for having done so.....

(((((Cas))))) it's onward and upward.....with a clear mind and heart only good things can come our way.....

Sanderika
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ME48/H48MLC
T 33y
M 28y
S16
OW 8/7/05
Bomb 8/16/05
Sep 9/05
H f'd D 10/3/08
D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09
D dismissed 2/5/10
H served me D papers again 9/4/10
D dismissed 9/26/11

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#1907290 - 01/03/10 04:19 PM Re: Always interesting if nothing else! [Re: Sanderika]
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Registered: 08/26/09
Posts: 1317
Wow Cas all the holidays sound fab!

I definitely think that one of the bonus's of absent H's is that we do get on and do things for ourselve which I bet if we hadnt separated we wouldnt have ever thought ourselves capable of doing. Im seriously thinking of having a week away with my friend C this year, just a girlie holiday!
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#1907471 - 01/03/10 08:56 PM Blessings and Beginnings [Re: Deep]
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Registered: 06/21/09
Posts: 1432
I've never been to Phuket, Deep, only Bangkok. I'll be visiting for just a week with my kids.

I love Asia so I'm open to visiting any place. I'd love to travel more but I'm both an introvert and a people person so I need the company of others but I'm not so good at making the introductions.Therefore, I don't like to travel alone.

The Cebu trip will be a couple of weeks, all being well.I'll go there by myself and meet and stay with friends there. I love Cebu but it's a long time since I've been there so I expect it to be very different. I expect I'll be contacting you about that time for that long overdue sling!!

Going to Melbourne alone but have friends and family to visit . Sydney is only for a weekend to see Wicked with some girlfriends.

G

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#1907488 - 01/03/10 09:05 PM Re: Blessings and Beginnings [Re: dolphin_05]
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Registered: 07/14/09
Posts: 1259
Hiya, Cas,

That sounds like a *wonderful* trip. I'm envious! Hope you have a wonderful time. smile

Dia
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#1907490 - 01/03/10 09:06 PM Re: Always interesting if nothing else! [Re: Sanderika]
dolphin_05 Offline
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Originally Posted By: Sanderika
Hindsight is 20/20 and after this we should have seen the writing on the wall long ago.....We are romantics at heart and made the choice to fight for what we loved. We are good people for having done so....(((((Cas))))) it's onward and upward.....with a clear mind and heart only good things can come our way.....Sanderika


Sanderika, what you posted here was entirely spot on. I kept hanging on way past the due date but I know now that I was loyal to the end and I gave it my everything. I am a person of depth and integrity and I am loyal and loving. I walk my own path now with a clear conscience that I attempted to right any wrongs and clear in the knowledge that I have lived with the pain of this MLC for an extraordinarily long time. OW has no pize. He can buy her all the stuff in the world but at the end of the day we all know that holidays and presents will never replace human emotion.

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#1909847 - 01/06/10 04:30 AM Re: Blessings and Beginnings [Re: dolphin_05]
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Registered: 06/21/09
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Feeling really good at the moment. Have been socialising with friends a lot over the past week. I recognise that spending time with others nourishes me and gives me energy. (My LL is quality time so this makes sense) I am lucky to have friends and family. Although 2010 will have difficulties with the settlement and divorce, it is also alive with many wonderful opportunities and possibilities. I must choose to embrace them.

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#1909997 - 01/06/10 01:29 PM Re: Blessings and Beginnings [Re: dolphin_05]
bonnyh Offline
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Registered: 11/19/08
Posts: 234
Loc: uk
Hi Cas

You’re sounding good. Seems that you’re reconciled to the outcome even though it may not have been what you would like. That’s good – we didn’t choose this path but all we can do is make the most of it and you’re doing that.

There will be ups and downs along the way of course, but the downs will get less and the ups more over time.

I think that so long as you’re certain in your own mind that you did everything you could to save the M you will have peace.

Bon voyage it all sounds great
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#1911032 - 01/07/10 09:03 AM Re: Blessings and Beginnings [Re: bonnyh]
JCJ Offline
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Registered: 05/27/08
Posts: 3324
Loc: London, UK
It all sounds so positive Cas. Great!

Those trips sound like so much fun!!!
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#1912745 - 01/09/10 11:45 AM Re: Blessings and Beginnings [Re: bonnyh]
dolphin_05 Offline
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[quote=bonnyhThere will be ups and downs along the way of course, but the downs will get less and the ups more over time.
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Good to hear from you Bonny. I'm sure you're right with this...it just takes such a long time. I feel great and then I get upset over a song, a restaurant, a memory. Ugh!

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