Hopefully, it's too early for you and I to think that way, but it's a small ray of hope.
No ray of hope for me. I won't be dating anyone else.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
What happened to that long list of things you wrote down?
kevin, you're sliding back into the victim mode again.
Which long list are you referring to Stuck?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Looks like I could take free west coast swing dance lessons tonight from 6:30 to 8:30. That could be fun and would keep me out of the apartment for a while.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
you mentioned everything from fishing, meetup groups, learning guitar, flying lessons, counseling, etc. But you always seem to have an excuse of why you can't do those things. Now you're back to square one.
I really think the group here enables you and you enjoy the attention because your W isn't there to do it for you. Your Mr. Fantastic comment is exactly that. You have two choices. Sit there and complain (which you have been doing) or get off your @$$ and do something. Anything. Just make a decision to do it.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
My problem is the weekends, both when I have my kids and when I don't. During the week I have plenty to keep me busy. It's the weekends that are hell.
When I don't have them, I'm trying to fill the time and remembering how nice it was to have a family around to always keep things hopping.
When I have them, we have plenty of fun, but I haven't been able to keep myself from wondering what W is doing. I have the LBS problem of imagining she's having all this tremendous fun without me.
Ya, I have the exact same problem. ...W was good at planning stuff. She has quite the life going on right now when she doesn't have the kids. She goes shooting, boating with people that own boats, plays poker, hangs with family and friends.
It is hard for me to think of something that I could afford, would interest me, and that she would find interesting as I would want to bring something to the table that she thinks is pretty neat also.
Kevin
K4, Why, dear God, did you mention HER at all here? Why say anything about HER, when you are supposed to be GAL for YOU? Who cares if she thinks it's "pretty neat also"???? OMG
This is what I mean by stubborn. I just posted PAGES & PAGES to you about GAL, how to DB, and how to re-attract your spouse BY LETTING GO OF THEM and not caring whether they notice it, or like it or get it or even know about it!!!....and then you say something that totally misses/ignores the point that has been hammered here by so many people so many times....how can you forget something 48 hours old? You also completely and I mean COMPLETELY - focus on what you lack in your life. It's negative programming big time. And you won't fix it b/c you don't even see it or want to. BTW, I bet it's superfun to be around that attitude.
Stuck is right! You like this attention. It's like Asperger's syndrome. You don't seem able to comprehend how your behavior or comments will be viewed. (Oh, I guess we're due for a long winded non sequitur bible passage now, b/c you are "caught"? You don't know what to say so you'll post something someone else wrote and "show us!" Please don't).
JUST LET GO OF HER & what you think she's doing/saying/feeling... and stop obsessing. It's really unhealthy and weird (and yes, pathetic) for you to be this way even now, and if you can't see that after all the info given to you over and over and over....this is useless. READ UP ON DETACHMENT however many times it takes you to GET IT!
Someone just throw a pie in my face if I post here again.
j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I was only thinking that I would like to do something that interests me but would also interest her so that I have something to bring to the table as you say. Thats all.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
