Newbie (again)

[karen43]

Now S12 asks today if he can be with Xw next weekend. I will not deny him his desires, so, what can I do? I'm not going to 'force' him to spend his prescribed visitation with me. Now he says they are attending church down there. Whatever. Do I fight it anymore or not? One day the kids say they hate it, the next, they're fine.

I guess maybe S12 has something he wants to do that weekend there? Sometimes the kids have stuff they want to do. I would agree to it, but only if you could trade another weekend the next weekend or whatever, to make up for the missed time. I think kids need both their parents, and I think your S12 will respect/love you for that when he's older.

[dday101798]

I already let him know it was fine, and that I wasn't "mad" about it, upset, yes, "mad" no. It just appears to me that XW is baiting him up to 'want' to live there. Anyway, he knows I'm ok with it. I will not get into any trading tho. Not going to start that non-sense and screw up schedules. I will see if he wants to go to dinner or something like this Wednesday and go from there.

Just covering my butt, did case searches on-line, at least now the timeline of our D is all there. Nothing filed in loserville, yet, although her brother seems to be in trouble with the law.

[dday101798]

I am completely 150% absolutely fed up with these games.

S12 called last night, several times while I was taking out the garbage and lawn refuse. He now all the sudden will be over as normal this weekend. S11 got on the phone later on, head buried in the TV. Out of curiosity I ask if he did homework, he said "yes" and I still asked what he doing watching TV sighting his report card. He said he doesn't even think XW lookded at it, "it's still in the car". And later on, his homework was all the sudden NOT done, but it was 8:30 and darling Xw finally came home with frozen pizzas for dinner.

Still no physical, now he could care less of his grades, and after months and months of "we don't want to move", nobody seems to care anymore?

I still have not received any response from my letter a month ago to XW addressing these issues. I think it's time to send another, certified, with "her check" to get her undivided but limited attention to THE RULES.

According to S11, they are probably moving in January. I am just purely disgusted that XW can put her own selfishness before the lives of her very own children and not realize that the rest of their lives are screwed up enough as it, but now to go and mess with their education?

I thought I made it apparent enough that I wasn't playing around durng the D. And at that time, I still cared about her and her relation to the boys. In the mere 6 months since it's completion, she has shown me zero respect in that regard, and thus, THAT is what she shall receive here forth.

[karen43]

How far is she planning on moving? In my state, you have to file papers with the court and get approval for relocating after D. I think they have limits as to how far they can move after D don't they? I think it's also a major problem it doesn't sound like your X has officially told you of the move; you're hearing of it through your S? I don't think she should have primary custody if she isn't going to communicate with you esp. on such a MAJOR issue!!!

[NoCodeBlues]

What does your parenting agreement say about move-aways?

[dday101798]

On both accords, XW is to communicate in writing to me ANY major changes that effect the boys lifestyle, including moves, re-marriages, schooling, medical issues, just to name a few, for the purpose of bringing the matter forth for mediation should I not agree.

She knows, I DO NOT agree to this move. She already has the residence and I feel it will just be any random day for "surprise, we moved". The problem, is the woman may be without a question selfish, but certainly isn't stupid. She will find some sort of way to box me in on this as she is already in contempt of court on 5 portions of the parenting agreement (yes, I did more researching today), and I'm rearing up to nail her to the wall. Enough is enough.

No Karen, she CERTAINLY should not have primary custody. As I've been trying to tell you, things do get really ugly where kids are concerned.

[mishka422]

Nail her Dylan!

[dday101798]

Nail her Dylan!

eww, those days are done! lol

dday out [scrubbing mind of horrid mental imagery]

[mishka422]

OMG! I totally didn't think of it that way.....EEEWWW!!

[dday101798]

OMG! I totally didn't think of it that way.....EEEWWW!!

lol, yes, if there is to a DB convention, I strongly suggest steering clear of the grill area (where I'll be), unless you have an open sense of humor and ears that have been to a truck stop once or twice.