Newbie (again)

[Virtually_Handsome]

From what I heard last night on the Parent Education class I had to take to get a D, I'm not surprised. In the end, he is going to defend both of you.

If you think he isn't safe over there, then you have to contact the authorities. If you think it's bad, and inappropriate, but not dangerous, you have to think very carefully.

How she lives her life isn't your problem. But, S's welfare is. I don't have any more advice!

[dday101798]

Yeah, well, now he's going to be mad at me since the school is calling "Ms. dday101798" (I really wish they's get that sh!t straight that she no longer bears the name or right there to) about the intervention this morning and to thuroughly ride her coat tail about his physical.

So now, she's gonna be pissed at me, and yet take it out on S11, and he'll take that out on me. Happens every flippen time. And everytime she scores another point toward making a point that I'm "over-exaggerating or purely making things up" and the I'm the one whose hurting them, not her. F'n b!$ch! I knew, just knew it, this is what she's been up to while being quiet, it has to be, and I gave her EXACTLY what she wanted.

[dday101798]

you have to think very carefully.

well Jeff, At least that is exactly what I finally did after months and months of transformation. Previously, i would have demanded XW get on the phone and clarify the story right then and there. Or would have e-mailed the school right after hanging up with S11 after his "claims" and thus, poured the current over-emotion in to it.

Either way, I lose, plain and simple. From now on, if he has a problem, he's gonna have to listen to me and take action on his own. I know she is moving far away, and has no intent to transport them as the agreement states like anything else she hasn't complied with thus far. so this just backs up her theory taht I'm so "mental" I'm not fit for visitation as she tried to do in the D initially.

That has to be what she's up to.

[karen43]

I would report her to child protective services. Your S11 is too young to handle this on his own I think. I've been through emotional abuse, hard as an adult, but for a kid. If you truly believe he's being abused, I think you should do it or at least seriously consider it.

[dday101798]

I think that will be the final straw to have the little visitation I have stripped away should it back-fire somehow, which appears to be the game.

[Virtually_Handsome]

Hey Dylan... another thing I learned.

You said S will take it out on you. We were told that the kid will vent their frustration on the parent they know is going to be there for them. They won't do that with the one they feel has or might abandon them, they are afraid to. So it's a good thing that he vents to you.

[dday101798]

I know Jeff, I was (am) him.

[dday101798]

Well, it's more apparent after speaking withthe kids this weekend that XW is moving them very soon and that S11's call that spurred my emotion was all part of the plot. Still no physical, getting kicked out on Tuesday he says, but yet now is all happy-go-lucky. I can't believe he would of done it intentionally, so for now, I will just say Xw played him to play me.

Never heard anything from XW either, which just further backs that up.

Now S12 asks today if he can be with Xw next weekend. I will not deny him his desires, so, what can I do? I'm not going to 'force' him to spend his prescribed visitation with me. Now he says they are attending church down there. Whatever. Do I fight it anymore or not? One day the kids say they hate it, the next, they're fine.

On other news, I went out last night for a karoake night. Uggh, paying the price. But, an 'interest' of mine was there, and we did have fun. Not sure what to make of it. Nothing transpired, but a good time, and the later half of which, I'll confess, I'm having a bit of trouble remembering, lol.

uggh, well, time to make some soup, clean up and get ready for the week. My cousins kid was here yesterday, preparing for his move back in, so my goal for the week is to be doubly employed by Friday. One can hope right?

[mishka422]

Ever hopeful Dylan!!!

You shouldn't force the issue of visitation on the kids, but you can encourage the visitation. The more encouraging about it you are, the more likely they will be to come.

So, when she moves them south she will then be responsible for transporting them to you on your weekends, right? Get a game plan in place right now for the inevitable denial by her. You know it's coming.

[dday101798]

Get a game plan in place right now for the inevitable denial by her. You know it's coming.

Well, I'm certain the "master plan" is she will file something in court there so that any relay to me will be delayed, as she's done before, and that I'm for whatever reason "not fit" to have a say so on where they live and overnight visitaion, also done before. The woman has become a ruthless quenn B, no question about it, and I will put nothing past her.

It's very obvious she wants S11 kicked out of school. Why else would she not have had the physical done? Why else would she not have contacted about his VERY poor grades? And now S12 is doing stellar in his classes, so the game there is probably that "he no longer needs special education and will do just fine in a 'normal' curriculum in a less demanding school district.

It just all makes sense and really stinks, but is clearly what she is going to do. There is no way that any vehicle she has is going to withstand the pounding. I'm surprised that my old car that she has now abruptly returned to active service is making the grade thus far (you don't get much for under $500). So, the only game plan I can make right now is to prepare myself for the expected-unexpected and that is yet another ruthless low down dirty kick in the groin.