Oh, and as far as the Gucci method, its ok - but I didn't do what I did to play head games or for a particular result. I'm no phony. That's the only part I don't like in that method, do x to get y reaction.
I did it because I needed to know I was still "marketable" in the words of my friend, because I thought he was cute, and because I wanted to see someone look at me as more than a sister. I'm human, too!
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
Good point, KerryK! That would be important to know.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
lol, she did watch some of the game. But I don't think she was a hardcore football fan.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I agree with everyone else that there was nothing wrong with a little female interaction. The question is are you seeing it more like a friendship or are you getting "intoxicated" because it's another drug to substitute your W? You've shown in the past that you've substituted one form of addiction for another. I can see this as being the same. That's why you're falling so deeply for this person.
For God's sake it was only one night. If you felt totally intoxicated with this person, then you've got a bigger issue. It's not a grown up R. For all you know, she felt lonely too and latched onto you because of that.
So the question is...did you make plans with her to see her again?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Yes I did make plans to see her again. But I will keep it in my pants. It was just fun being with her. I had real fun for a change.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
The question is are you seeing it more like a friendship or are you getting "intoxicated" because it's another drug to substitute your W? You've shown in the past that you've substituted one form of addiction for another. I can see this as being the same. That's why you're falling so deeply for this person.
This is kinda what I was trying to get at.
He feels guilty because he's made a big deal about "standing" for his marriage and he's "struggling" because he sees an opportunity for a quick fix for himself.
It you're standing for your marriage, the answer is clear. Enjoy her company, but make it clear that you can't offer her any more than friendship.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
breakaway, I went to the sports bar to watch the game so I wasn't sitting at home alone watching it. I sat down next to her because truly she was stunning. I actually didn't expect her to take any interest in me. But she took a real interest in me.
It wasn't that I was at the sports bar that was intoxicating. It was that we just clicked so well and she really liked me and kept blowing off other guys so that she could focus on me. I guess it just seemed like she was really interested in me and we actually hung out for about 6 hours. Then that she wanted to go out with me this week just further made me feel like she was really interested in me. I think it was somewhat intoxicating because she is a real knockout and she is intelligent and fun.
I just felt alive with her after a while. She was a little bit physical, but not an open mouth kiss or sleeping with her.
I don't know. She was just something else.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
