Rabbit, WOA simply affirm H for any behaviours so to add further to what Trent says; it can be to say, "You handled that situation really well." "I like the way you spoke so calmly to S" "I've always admired your decisiveness" "Thanks for dinner" "I've enjoyed your company."
Thanks for the help Cas! I sent him a txt to say hope he enjoys himself tomorrow and how much I had enjoyed spending the last few days with him and in particular that it meant a lot to me that he did the 5LL's quiz for me.
Im just going to act "as if" now, I have one last week to myself before I start my job on monday so need to spend time reorganising my routine to fit in with work and my hobbies. Its going to be quite a tight schedule but its got to be done.
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
H phoned last night which was nice, one he's not really phoned me before partially because he doesnt have a good mobile signal where he lives, but the nicest thing was he'd come back from his day out, hed brought fish and chips home with him for tea, but he phoned me before eating them to chat!
So I said I really appreciated him phoning me but to go eat his tea before it got cold as Im sure he was hungry and then ring me back or go on MSN. He rang me back several times cos of the bad signal but he said how he had enjoyed the last few days and in particular the afternoon before he went, that was me covering all three of his LL's without even realising.
He said how he thought we were getting on really well, and that perhaps I should come down one sunday, which although I said would be nice I reminded him that I now have a job to go to, some how also I muttered about having boundaries for myself that I wasnt prepared to cross!
So heres the problem, my main boundary I had agreed for me (he doesnt know) is if he signs a new lease for his flat at the end of nov, I was going back to NC! But that was before we started making headway which we are now. I dont want to upset the apple cart by making ultimatums. But I certainly didnt want to go into 2010 living in limboland. And a new lease would take him to Feb next year.
So I suppose for the time being I go with the flow and see where it is taking me?
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Txt him last night to ask if he had a good day, got short reply, then nothing to my answer or the nite nite one later! Amazing his interest only lasted one whole day!
Feeling a bit down today went shopping to our fav garden centre all the xmas stuff was out and we were going to buy a new tree this year! Really felt billy no mates as everyone was couples or families looking round the shops, probably silly of me to go at the weekend but from next week will have to as I start my new job.
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W 47 H 47 M 24 T 30
Once lost but now found and happily married again!
Rabbit, you could be jumping to conclusions here....something I usually specialise in. For example my replies are probably short when I am busy, especially if I am flat out with work.
I'm more than happy with my thread 'bashing'. It keeps me on my toes, gives me food for thought and some interesting reading, particularly from a male perspective. Bottom line is that it's up to me what I do with the advice I receive.
Feeling a bit down today went shopping to our fav garden centre all the xmas stuff was out and we were going to buy a new tree this year! Really felt billy no mates as everyone was couples or families looking round the shops
Isn't this amongst the worst feeling? Christmas is supposed to be a happy time and one for families - all it does is remind me that mine is even further away ...
How are we all going to get through it?
WAH 43; W 47 M 16; T 17 Cats 15 & 6 Bomb 27/05/09 ow 28/06/09
"It is only on the darkest night that we see the stars"
