Hey, everyone. Thanks for continuing to check in on me.
The meeting with the PC went fine. I'm still reflecting on what we covered. It took a little longer than I had expected because relating to someone the whole background is just simply going to take a while. Even then I didn't cover but a fraction, but I am hoping it was enough.
The biggest question he had concerned why it came about that the court asked for a PC to be assigned to our case -- as in our type of circumstances the parents don't typically have one assigned. I told him it was because we had volunteered to such in our parenting agreement, at the suggestion of our atty.s.
He said he hopes to save both xW and I a lot of money by helping keep our disputes out of the courts. And in talking with us, he feels that, so far as he's seen, he doesn't expect us to contact him very often, as we appear to be settling down and working on some level of cooperation. He strongly suggested we continue to keep as much of our communication and correspondence in writing as possible, just to avoid the he-said, she-said nonsense that tends to happen.
I prepared him for some possible points of contention that are likely to come up in the not too distant future; these being based on those issues in our Parenting Agreement that xW had wanted changed or removed before she would sign -- specifically, move-aways and cohabitation. He agreed that based on where her focus seemed to be in the agreement those might very well be something she might pursue, thus leading to a dispute.
I also told him that the last remaining area in which I might can trust xW is that she does love our S's and that she does want to have their best interests at heart. However, I also know that xW has shown to be like too many parents who have this bad habit of confusing and replacing their children's best interests with their own self-interests. The doctor agreed wholeheartedly and said that my observation on that was very "astute. He said that his role was to stay focused on what is best for S8 and S4 and for the court. I replied that where my S's are concerned I was counting on him (the PC) to keep us both, xW and I, honest on that score.
I'm not entirely sure how all this is going to pan out, but I am somewhat hopeful that the PC will indeed help us to keep a lid on our disagreements and, more importantly, deter xW from taking any more unilateral actions regarding our S's.
I hope everyone is doing well today. Here, it is gloomy, wet and overcast, but at least it's not raining like it was yesterday.
I am hoping the weekend weather turns out like they forecast, maybe even some sunshine. I am taking the boys on a weekend getaway to Charlotte, to see the NASCAR race on Saturday. My S's are all fired up and so am I. S8 has been a car fanatic since before he was born (yep, even in utero ), and S4 follows his older brother's lead. So they're really going to love this event. I can't wait to pick them up tomorrow from their mother's place!
Halloween is also shaping up to be a blast for us as well. Some friends of mine are hosting a costume party for the adults as well as the kids, and they live in a great neighborhood for trick-or-treating afterward. (I am soooo very glad I resisted xW's attempts to bargain and finagle Halloween away from me!)
The next two weeks look to be very busy and very fun. (Hmmm, I guess it's the pessimist in me that now has me keeping an eye out to whatever -- or whoever -- might come along to spoil any of this. LOL.)
But then after that, I'll be broke once more. It'll be time to re-begin again to pay down the debt from these legal costs. C'est la vie...
Ok, it's not your fault. I had a ticket at the ready (6th row at the line) and have been on stand-by for a flight to make that race to keep my mind off the anniversary! I mean, I was going to fly, me the Mr. I'm not getting on plane unless I'm jumping out of it!
You just lost your brownie points with me oh brother in divorceness.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
Aaaah, ARE YOU FREAKIN' KIDDIN' ME?!? You're saying you have a ticket and want to go, but you're not? Huh?!?
Is it because you happen to hate flying or because of something sentimental about your ex? If the latter, then, dude, you can't let her have exclusive hold of something that might be dear to your heart. (That'd be like me forgoing kayaking just because xW and OM are now kayaking -- no f'ing way!)
If you change your mind, bro', let me know. Our tickets kinda' suck, nowhere near the line (Diamond Towers, got 'em through an offer at work), but my kids don't mind (they'll just be happy to see the cars go round.)
By the time race got started the stands were pretty well full, with few empty seats-- at least where we were. We got there much too early (4 PM) and until the crowds showed up it was much too cold. We froze our little butts off in that cold wind.
We had a great time nonetheless, and my two were such stalwarts, insisting on staying through the worsening cold as long as possible. In the end it was sleepiness that started to take it's toll -- S4 fell asleep on my lap, and then S8 started to get real still too. I kept checking on him, gently warning him I had no intention of trying to carry the both of them back to the car. So we ended up leaving early and watched the remainder of the race from the toasty warm convenience of our hotel room.
), and S4 follows his older brother's lead. So they're really going to love this event. I can't wait to pick them up tomorrow from their mother's place!
