"Have I become the person I always hoped I would be?
Your mission, during this time of rejection and being ignored is to begin becoming that person. Your job is to restore YOUR life, and the lives of those closest to you who are still under your care. "
Should we become the people our WAS`s want us to be or follow our own hearts-even if it takes us away from them...
Example: I`ve rekindled lots of interests I`ve had in the past-music, art, yoga, reading-problem is H has no interest in these things and actually, is scathing of my interest in them(though that`s part of his MLC anger/jealousy thing)
Should I try and connect more with out common interests?Can only think of one though and no its not the kids because he shows minimal interest in them.
One of his whinges is that we have nothing in common.
And one of the problems is that he declares he`s only interested in two things-football and his hometown, neither of which have a place in my heart.
Now if there were a real man on board he`d answer that one, but sadly Mach is not with us...
Good question. I think we need to do things for ourselves and be who we want to be. Ideally, we could cultivate new shared interests with our spouses but in our cases that isn't going to happen, at least not anytime soon and until reconciliation begins.
"Endurance is a testament of love."