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#1826162 - 08/25/09 08:59 PM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: SmileysPerson]
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Well that was helpful. grin
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#1826164 - 08/25/09 09:04 PM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: aliveandkicking]
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The best reply to a narcissist is nothing at all.
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#1826170 - 08/25/09 09:17 PM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: breakaway]
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That's exactly what he got.
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#1826299 - 08/26/09 01:48 AM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Damn Straight!
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#1826302 - 08/26/09 01:58 AM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: orangedog]
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OOOOOOOOOO-Dog, how you doing?
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#1826306 - 08/26/09 02:16 AM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: aliveandkicking]
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I started feeling better as soon as I walked out of that office after signing the papers. Not that I wanted to but I didn't have it hanging over my head.

Went out for drinks afterwards. Everyone was very supportive and upbeat. Long talk with a person afterwards about future plans.

Asked out for drinks again tonight - good conversation.

It's all good when I don't concern myself with what's happening on the other side of the fence.
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#1826307 - 08/26/09 02:21 AM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: orangedog]
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Cool. I suppose you concur that I should keep movin' on here despite H's invitations (weak-a$$ as they are)...
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#1826310 - 08/26/09 02:38 AM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Well I don't know if I'm the one to ask around here. H needs to "get it" and understand how his behavior affects you and the kids before you move any closer otherwise you're repeating the same sitch again. I know you've spelled it out before but do it again and don't move his direction until you see a sign of change. It might be very difficult to understand for someone who is truly narcisistic as H might be.

You can't keep crashing your head into a brick wall.

How's that?
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#1826312 - 08/26/09 02:53 AM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: orangedog]
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Ya, pretty much where I'm at. I wake up sad because he was my family, you know?

But, and it is a big but, he does not get it and I can't imagine ever seeing him as the guy who would be here for me come hell or high water...and that is truly what I want.

So, I am moving on and oddly, we are getting along and I just ignore any and all frivolous communication...I let him play with himself.

It is just so odd to be so ok and nice to him while still maintaining my boundaries...

I hope you are able to relish in the done-ness of your sitch...and enjoy your life.
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#1826320 - 08/26/09 03:12 AM Re: Gucci, Coach, 25, SP, somebody??? [Re: aliveandkicking]
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Yeah, she was my family too and I miss her but I can't pay attention to her sitch anymore.

ignore the frivolous and angry stuff.
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