In answer to your question, despite all of my GAL activities, I still feel like my life has been placed on hold until I can get past this verdict. I feel like a Sword of Damocles is still hanging precariously over my head.
But I do dream that some day I will have all of this limbo behind me.
I picked up my S's yesterday evening -- the start of another week of parenting them. We had a blast at the movies last night -- we went to see the new Transformers movie, the one blockbuster we had been anticipating above all the others. S8 and S4 became huge Transformer fans when we watched the first movie two summers ago. And we've been waiting for months and months to see this sequel -- ever since the rumors started forming that it was in production.
I had been sweating all week that xW was going to try to preempt me by taking the boys to see this movie. She has taken the opportunity several times to steal my thunder and to co-opt things I have been personally sharing with our S's -- camping, fishing, canoeing and kayaking, Legos and other specific amusements and interests. So, I was concerned she would pull another coup this week with the opening of this movie -- especially on the heals of our confrontation on Thursday. I am thankful she did not.
Still, it didn't keep her from telling our S's that she would indeed take them to see this same movie again at a new drive-in theatre that opened up an hour north of here. I tried to suppress my reaction when I started to bristle at S8's recounting to me of how the OM was telling his mother about this new drive-in and would take them all to see it soon. Grrrrrr.
I am nonetheless relieved. I don't know what I would have done had she actually preempted me -- she knows that I could not in any way have taken that particular action as anything more than a call to Mutually-Assured Destruction. I am glad we did not "go there."
Im so glad that you had a good time at the movies!! Im wondering if my boys would like it. They didn't see the first one, but maybe on a big screen it would be cool...Im equally glad that she didn't try to take that away from you, although I wouldn't have been suprised if she had.
s6 had a birthday party to go to today, so H stayed with S3, it was a suprise, because usually if he's not working he's too tired to do anything else. Yup join the club.
Just got my "dukes of Hazzard" dvd's in the mail second season. Even though I have usually no time to watch it, I wil make some time.
Hope you have a good week. Have fun and take care of yourself.
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I'd try the first Transformer movie on them first, to see if they like it before attempting the second one. (It's on DVD.)
I thought the original movie was very much over-the-top with non-stop action, and a thrill a minute -- but this sequel is more of the same only amped up far, far above it, thus it doesn't really give you a chance to catch your breath for the entire 2 1/2 hours.
The big caveat to me is that some things were added to the latest movie that detract from it being entirely appropriate for all audiences, if you know what i mean. There's a lot of off-color, extremely sophomoric humor that doesn't really add to the story. And there's more than a few "choice" words that caused me to wince for the sake of my two little pairs of ears sitting next to me. Thankfully a lot of the innuendo goes above the heads of my two, but I wish most of that would have been left on the cutting room floor.
Other than those quibbles, I found the movie very entertaining. Very Hollywood. Very Big-budget extravaganza.
It's good to hear that H helped out. I'm sure your S3 really enjoyed having some one-on-one time with his father. They need that so very much.
"Dukes of Hazard", huh? I never really caught too many episodes of that series -- I guess i was busy watching other shows, like the original "Battlestar Galactica", in those days.
I got a short, terse request from xW last night. She apparently has a half day off on Friday and now wants to pick the kids up early, at noon time. I sent her back a response that I would think about it.
After all the cr*p she's dumped on me when I have simply asked for an early transfer of custody for a special occasion (I am recalling April 3 very distinctly now), she has a lot of nerve to ask me to do the same. And then to have suffered the pain and indignity of having to haggle with her for time with our S's on Father's Day, of all days, ... !!!
It's like she doesn't think I too might actually value my time with our S's.
But I really don't want to act as pettily as she has. It's not that I really care now that she is treated fairly or not; it's that for my own conscience and my own spiritual health I need to practice humility and magnanimity. I can't save her but I have to do as Christ bids me, and it is for my sake and for the sake of my S's that I not act out of vindictiveness like she does. Otherwise, I would quickly tell her where to shove her request.
I just don't like feeling like a patsy when I do act kindly towards her -- she always tries to make me regret it later.
Like I said, though, I am still thinking about it.
]I got a short, terse request from xW last night. She apparently has a half day off on Friday and now wants to pick the kids up early, at noon time.
I would've been tempted to email back something like Are ya kidding me???
I agree with the whole not being petty thing. One of the most important reasons for that is to be a good role model for the kids.
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I just don't like feeling like a patsy when I do act kindly towards her -- she always tries to make me regret it later.
I think you can still be kind though and be strong at the same time. I still haven't completely figured it out myself but I'm doing better at that.
I think it's wise to think about it and not just knee-jerk respond in haste. One of the reasons I like email b/c it can give you thinking time more than in-person. Karen
nc, you know darn well if you DO say know, you'll get her rath.. BUT I do think it was wise that to answer her right away.
Its amazing to me how inconsiderate (and that's being nice) she is towards you, and then expects you to cater to whatever she needs/wants, like everything is fine!!
Ya know it is ok to say no. At this point, what if you had something going on, she doesn't know you don't so I wouldn't worry about her thinking your being vindictive or mean, she already thinks that (im sorry for that, but she does already have this in her head) You want as much time with the boys as you can get, and THAT my friend is what this is about, NOT her.
when you do have the boys it is your time period.
I might sound harsh, but its not about her feelings, or what she wants, its about continuing to build your relationship with your boys.
Anyways, Yes we are going to try and watch the first movie and see what they think of it. We are really looking forward to the new Ice Age movie and of course Harry Potter (which im desperately waiting for !!) I actually have only read the first book and im now on the second one, but ive seen every movie about 50 times!
Have a good day, and take care!
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
