Hey MrsM...A 180 could be to just be busy and happy! I am thrilled that invites are trickling in now....its not concrete yet, but its beginning to take shape. Makes me sad...a new life but, without him to share it.
Dawn.. Thankyou SO much for posting to me. Thats interesting what you said about 3 days to nosedive as he did look shocked when he told me. I dont know when he went back on the ADs thugh?
Got more emails from Cher today, I am like her New Best Friend! She asked what I was doing NYEve, but not invited me yet. I'd love to spend it with her and bf G (and I bet Luke Skywalker will be there! ha). I felt bad, as in muscling in on my ex's BMF G..? but they woulndt invite him anyway as they cant stand helen!
She said she stands by what she said, that theres nothing about helen thats better than me in any way and she cant see it lasting with her. She is just so obviously young, that she thinks he was lured for that reason - just the attraction of a younger woman. Funny, I didnt look at it that way, but then I havent met her.
Ali, did you throw out the dictaphone yet? Go with the invites, obviously someone sees something that makes them want you around. Listen, don't be ashamed of wanting him back. But it has been a long time already and it could be a lot longer before it may be different. If you just hang around waiting and analyzing, guess what, YOUR life will pass you by.
Live, have fun, doens't mean you have to jump right into a R or anything but get out of the house and out of your head. Just be. If it is meant for him to return, he will.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Hey girls.. yes, it has been a long time already.. do you mean, TOO long? I feel a bit of an idiot for still being in love with him. But, its still there, that connection, I loved being in the car chatting to him Friday.
I am going out tonight with a bunch of 21 year olds! My (MLCer) BMF said to them he doesnt want to come as it makes him feel old and he has ignored my calls. I feel strangely hurt (I dont mean like that, he's M!!).. but it makes me realise I am vunerable to rejection of any kind, so I defo cant date yet.
I feel kind of excitable, let out of the box...and yes, I am noticing that people like having me around. I didnt expect that. My pride wants my ex to notice too, but I doubt that he will.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Good for you for going out and good for you for realizing your limitations on being hurt right now.
Keep working on yourself and you'll continue to learn, grow and change...and we'll all still be here too.
As for BF, it is so sad to see where he is b/c he's so lost. So very, very lost. He's a long, long term reclamation project, I'm afraid and I don't see you being there as a partner for him once he does figure it out.
The hole he is in is so very deep and he wouldn't know how to use the ladder to climb out of it right now if you provided it for him.
Ha, you're funny Rob.. "He's a long, long term reclamation project" thats funny.
So, went to a traditional pub and played cards, with two 21 year olds and a 23 year old (sigh!). The 23 yrold intrigues me. Seems he was intrigued by me too (you can tell right)... also he's a Leo! Me and Leo men.
I felt angry at my ex tonight...because I gave him the best years of my life (27-37) and then to end it, without letting me in on the decision process, with no trying, no MC. Its been very damaging for me, so I think alone is best right now. I thikn meeting someone decent, at this age, is a longshot (not impossible).
I felt angry at my ex tonight...because I gave him the best years of my life (27-37) and then to end it, without letting me in on the decision process, with no trying, no MC. Its been very damaging for me, so I think alone is best right now. I thikn meeting someone decent, at this age, is a longshot (not impossible).
You've got lots of good years ahead of you, Ali! And I sure hope that meeting someone decent isn't along shot at your young age!
Hi Ali, I still read now and again! This made me smile and also want to lay down and die! lol
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...because I gave him the best years of my life (27-37) and then to end it, without letting me in on the decision process, with no trying, no MC. Its been very damaging for me, so I think alone is best right now. I thikn meeting someone decent, at this age, is a longshot (not impossible).
At my ripe old age. I guess my chance is nil, yet my heart and head haven't really grasped that. Enjoy your week end.
Hey Naej... I meant best years as in... settling down, kids, ovarian wise! That doesnt apply to you (!!?) you already had your family. Its probably too late for me (my Nan was menopausal at 39 and my Mum 41).
I acutally think it is easier to meet someone at your age.. its so much easier to join rambling clubs, bridge, SAGA days out, bowling, or if you are young for your age (like my parents) your kids are grown, so you can go out socialising every weekend, if you joined up with some like minded woman. I notice as you post around the boards that you are quite down on yourself, age wise..My Mums friend just met and M someone, she was 60 and the guy 65...
Reading what you wrote about the age Ali, I wanted to die too... I seriously believe I am starting an MLC myself. Age and years etc etc are making me crazy... K
