do the clown fish know of your feisty plans ??? LOL
You, my friend, are doing really great.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
How I feel about W. Looking back, the R sucked for a long time. I need her to bend alot. I don't think she will. But then again, she didn't think I would bend. Am I going down cheeseless tunnels? Does W have OM that I don't know about. Does W like women?? AHHHHHHHHHRRRRRRRGGGGGGG!!!!!!
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Oh ya, this alpha male @#$% sucks too! I now notice women checking me out alot! I have women smiling at me, flirting with me. Asking me out! (and on top of that I am enjoying it!)
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It is tough being a stud muffin. Your new attitude toward life, way of approaching things is very appealing. Attention, especially from the opposite sex, is very electrifying.
Your only question is.. do you want the marriage? What do you want for your children?
The attention, pursuit, flirting are all ego boosts which end up leading you back to the same place... what do you want out of a relationship? You can date, tease, boink all the beauties but what is your end goal?
That's what so tough.. what do you want in the end?
Things changed for me when I was begging him for money for the kids. Parents look out for their children. It's hard to respect someone who doesn't.
How I feel about W. Looking back, the R sucked for a long time. I need her to bend alot. I don't think she will. But then again, she didn't think I would bend. Am I going down cheeseless tunnels? Does W have OM that I don't know about. Does W like women?? AHHHHHHHHHRRRRRRRGGGGGGG!!!!!!
The thought of him leaving me because he discovered he was gay was something I could live with.. he wouldn't be rejecting just me, he'd be rejecting all women.
There's no need to project into the future about what you need her to do. It's about what you need to do to become a better person, the best father you can be.
About all those womenfolk. Eye candy is always sweeter imagined than tasted.
When you're done with the marriage, it's one thing. While you're working on it it's something completely different.. or at least it is for me. Then again I don't put myself out there.
...Your only question is.. do you want the marriage? What do you want for your children?...
I want my children to see W and I happy. I want my children to see W and I treating each other with respect. I want W and I to be good roll models. I want my children to see there parents in loving relationship(s).
These can happen with or without the M. I believe it is better if they see this with W and I married to each other. Hopefully they can see W and I make up.....
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...When you're done with the marriage, it's one thing. While you're working on it it's something completely different.. or at least it is for me. Then again I don't put myself out there...
I am working on ME right now with the end goal working on my M. I have moved some of my boundaries around. Good/Bad I am not sure. It is crazy, but I know you and SCookie more than I know my W. My insight from my other relationships helps me understand what W is going though.
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