Steeler Fan 07/09/08

[MidwesternGirl]

I think it is a matter of interpretation because many do not believe in divorce.

My H is also a believer in Christ.

[ACJ]

SF. I admire your strength and determination. I'm one of those who do not believe in D and not just b/c of the biblical interpretations. However with modern law the way it is I am being forced into a D. I can fight it all I like (whether it be biblical or physical) BUT here the law is on the side of the person who does want the D. It doesn't matter what they did or why they did it a judge will not make someone stay M if they do not want to be. That's the saddest thing of all. D is way to easy for those who think they want it.

[MidwesternGirl]

ACJ:

If your spouse files for divorce there is not much you can do and yes, we do live in a world where divorce runs rampant and it is an easy way out.

I really did not intend for this thread to become a heated theological debate.

[IRMAT]

SF, I saw where they disagreed with you yesterday.. and I stand behind your beliefs also, because the Bible does say that it hates divorce..

and those that spoke out on this and they said that your h pretty much had not been punished for any of his wrong ways I read it as that you should stand your ground and let him reap the consequences of his actions..
but I think you are being and doing exactly what the Lord wants you to do.Who are we to judge and to punish, that is God's job.

I saw that after those things were said you were not on for very much after that.. I dont know if it was due to those things said but you are doing what you believe and know it is what god wants..

your h will one day have to explain to the Lord why he did what he did and God will see to it he will get his rewards by his actions on this earth...

I think you are terrific in standing and being obedient to our Lord our father... You are almost done with all this and you will have a marriage better than ever and it will be centered around God almighty.

Have a blessed day in Jesus name.

[MidwesternGirl]

Thank you, IRMAT, for your post.

I did not want this to turn into a heated debate BUT I do want to say that my H has told me that nobody knows the torment he is going thru internally. He said nobody will ever know that kind of pain.

I believe him, and he has had stomach problems for awhile now due to nerves.

God is working, no doubt about it.

[mishka422]

SF - God is absolutely working on him. I never wanted a debate either. I thought it might just be important that others who may not know God's word well know that God hates divorce but doesn't not hate the divorced. In so many cases the D is through no fault or control of our own. Also, we are given two "outs" that permit us to D if need be.

I am asking you so many questions because I truly want to know how you made your decision to stand through all of this time. I find myself shifting back and forth between standing and giving up and wonder what the catalyst was for you to realize there was any possibility at all that God was not just easing your way to D.

[MidwesternGirl]

I never, ever waivered in my stand. I made that decision when I first discovered the A.

I always stood and yes, it would be easy to give up but I am not.

I guess I don't have much to say except that the decision was made from the gitgo but allowing God to control this to the fullest, that tool awhile but I did it.

[SirPrizeMe]

Good for you! And good for us, too! You are an inspiration.

[ACJ]

You are an inspiration

I'll second that.

[mishka422]

That's great SF! I truly am in awe of you.

I don't think I have the strength to do that. I feel like my soul is too bruised and battered by the betrayal to be able to take my H back especially in the non-remorseful, non-repentant attitude he gives me.

I will keep praying for you and your H as well as your kids.

God Bless SF!!!