Not to mention that H made me out to look like the bad guy and I just listened to him talk and when he sounded very calm again and said he better get back to work, I just hung up on him.
I bet your H is feeling bad that he was unsupportive of you on the phone. I hope he makes it up to you when he comes over on the weekend.
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Wish I had a place where I could run away like H but the more I think about it, I feel guilty as I could never leave my daughters.
Don't feel bad about needing a break. Everyone needs downtime, especially you now after going through so much.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
did not sound like the same man i spoke to on the phone friday morning
he sounds a lot better.
hmmm............
and he just called me and sounded really really nice
asked how i was, etc.
i have a feeling he knows he was way wrong when he confronted me on the phone friday morning about some things.
i better get some sleep.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I asked him how he was feeling because I had mentioned previously he had been getting stomach aches on and off due to nerves, etc.
He said it comes and goes. He said it could be anything but of course, he will not have it checked. At least he is thinking there is something wrong and who knows, maybe he will get himself checked out if it gets where he cant stand it any longer.
I did have a chance to tell him what my fantasy vacation would be with him because he asked.
I said I would love to go to a place such as Vail, stay in a nice room with a fireplace, and we get stuck there for a few days due to a major snowstorm.
He liked that.
Then he said he still would love to go to the Greek Islands with me.
I did say that maybe we can take the honeymoon we never had.
It certainly was something to think about.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
SF, I'm sorry he was in one of his moods. It sounds like he's cycling more frequently than before. I'm glad to see he was in a better frame of mind later in the day.
I do hope that your situation will come together soon so that you can finally have a little bit of rest from all of it. You've been such a wonderful and patient woman through all of this. Your h doesn't realize just how lucky he is to have you in his corner.
Please try to have a good day. I'm keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Many times I just wish he would come home which would take a lot of pressure off of me.
Then I think about how much I enjoy our late night conversations, etc. but know he is becoming more and more miserable over there.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
SF, You do not want him home the way he is right now. The pressure you would experience would be greater because he's still having some mood swings that are created by the demons who are fighting the "good" in him.
It's better that he get this out of the way before coming home and I do believe that by October, he'll be more than ready to come home to you and your family. He'll be more settled and the moods swings will be far less frequent. You already have enough stress in your life at this time and you do not want him added into the mix.
Enjoy the late night conversations and know that he really is a miserable man in his skin at this time.
I do hope you have something planned for yourself today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
True, I don't think I can deal with H and of course my teenage son and all that is involved there.
I think this new job my son just got is going to do him a lot of good. He is really excited about it. He has been in training the last two days and has one more day of training on Monday and the restaurant opens on Tuesday.
He will be working five days/week, including weekends from something like 4-10PM.
Once he gets his own place, our house will be peaceful again and the girls will be very happy as we are going to paint the bedrooms. They are really excited that they will each have their own room when S leaves.
I am sure that H will want to come back about that time but you never can tell for sure.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
