Well, H and the kids were only gone for about an hour and a half, then he brought them back to feed them dinner. Asked me if I wanted him to heat anything up for me, told no, I wasn't really hungry, but thanks for asking. He cleaned up all the dishes from him and the kids and made a pot of coffee. Came downstairs with his cup and said he would have made me one, but he noticed I was drinking iced tea. I said yeah, it was a little too hot for coffee for me today.
He asked if it was okay to just hang out at the house, since we need to limit D5's activity level (YEAH RIGHT, like that is going to happen!). I said sure it was not a problem, but that he would ahve to run interference if they came to me for stuff--I really needed to do my school stuff. He said no problem.
I was sitting outside at the picnic table reading my school stuff when he came out with the kids. He played with them for a while, then sat down at the table near me. It was a companionable quiet, if you know what I mean. No tension, just more like I am here if you need to bounce anything off of me. It felt a lot like it used to, before the bomb. I sat back once and looked up and he smiled at me, then looked back at the kids playing. It was comfortable.
He hung out a little past his normal visitation time, even got the kids dessert. Asked me if he could come with me to D5's appointment on Friday. I said of course and suggested we take one car because of the gas prices. He said it was a good idea, we could take his since it is cheaper to drive. I smiled and said true, but mine has working A/C and it is supposed to be almost 100 on Friday. As much as he is hating this heat after three summers in Michigan, I have a feeling that comfort will win out over gas conservation on Friday.
I do not think I am going to do the Subway thimg tomorrow. I have seen him everyday since last Friday. I think he needs a break from my wondrous presence to miss me until he sees me again on Friday afternoon.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I think you have it right on the Subway! There will be a better time!
I hear you on keeping D5's activity level down. When our oldest was 3 he broke his femur, on a diagonal. He was in traction for a while, then in a body cast for six weeks or so. When the doc took it off, he said to keep his activity level down for a while. To hear W describe it, she looked at him like he was from Mars, and told him if he wanted that he should have left the cast on!
I think you have it right on the Subway! There will be a better time!
I hear you on keeping D5's activity level down. When our oldest was 3 he broke his femur, on a diagonal. He was in traction for a while, then in a body cast for six weeks or so. When the doc took it off, he said to keep his activity level down for a while. To hear W describe it, she looked at him like he was from Mars, and told him if he wanted that he should have left the cast on!
When D5 was 3, D8 accidently dislocated her elbow. Within an hour of getting home from the ER, she had cracked the partial cast that they had given her. It is not just the boys who are rough and tumble.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
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Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
and sorry I didn't post yest. yes, you are right not to do the subway thing. but, if you do it later, then offer to drop it by. I would say don't ask him out. For the first time that is. I think he would appreciate your courtesy and it definitely wouldn't feel like pressure like asking him out to dinner would. although the way things are going, I think asking him out (with no expectations) in the next month might be a good idea. timing is everything though.
hey, I am so sorry to hear about your little one. I copied this that I found online. I'm a search engine freak.
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Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
also, don't tell H that you don't blame him. Instead use the positive form. "H I wanted to tell you thank you for taking care of d5's accident so quickly, you handled that really well"
you know, instead of using negative words, change it around and use positive words. I'm sure you can come up with something better than mine too.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
He asked if it was okay to just hang out at the house, since we need to limit D5's activity level (YEAH RIGHT, like that is going to happen!). But he ASKED, right? He is seeing and recognizing you.
It was a companionable quiet, if you know what I mean. No tension, just more like I am here if you need to bounce anything off of me. It felt a lot like it used to, before the bomb. I sat back once and looked up and he smiled at me, then looked back at the kids playing. It was comfortable. What a great time. I would be walking on air. This all sounds VERY positive to me. Hold on to these moments the next time he treats you like crap. See what a little T&A can do?
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
I would tell him that it wasn't his fault, That accidents happen, and you don't want him to blame himself. I think it is important to say these things.
