Quote: ...then asked h if he had any fantacies (I'm willing) and he was annoyed that I was interupting the show and then flatly said no he didn't have any fantasies.
LL
My take, you interupted the program, when we are watching tv, our mind is in netural. You will just get fustrated trying to do grown up talk while tv is on.
All men have a fantasy, you got him at a bad time. Of course he could just not feel safe, knowing you want to jump him.
Quote: My take, you interupted the program, when we are watching tv, our mind is in netural. You will just get fustrated trying to do grown up talk while tv is on.
we had just turned on the program so really what was I interupting but the last 10 min of a show we hadn't even be watching in the first place!!!
if h has a fantacy...I doubt he himself even knows what it is!!
so what comes first the chicken or the egg...or does the chicken make the egg just smell bad????
what the hell does that mean???
are the problems h and I have/had....a result of my expecting him to "perform" thus not being happy becuase I take it as him not loving me...not finding me attractive (god he'd have to be blind) or something else...I get annoyed and then other feelings of resentment start to build...an endless cycle it would seem...
so now that it has been at least two weeks since anything...well now I am finding myself getting irritated at everything he does....grrrrr!! am I irritated at everything he does because of no action...or am I simply seeing the light because I am not being passafied???
I just don't get it!! (isn't that ironic!! ha ha ha)
it seems that as my resentment builds over the issue h pulls away more and more so that not only am I not getting the extra but the simple hugs or kisses or cuddle on the couch start to diminish as well..thus creating more resentment in me!!
I don't know if this is the root of our problems or not...but I would say that for me...it's a biggie!!!
I'm starting to feel like just giving up...there's no point in filing...h would only tell me not to again...life aint so bad...but I suppose I should just accept the fact that I'm married and therefore to expect to be treated like a "woman" regularly is out of the question...that's for single people.
LL..wish I had something to say that might help..but I have not gotten to the place you are...I would die just to have h come back and say he wants to try..let alone the hugs, spooning etc...yet I am trying to understand that your h is home, but things are not falling into place smoothly..where are the books to help after your'e back and how to reestablish a r after all that has happened? The things you have gone through can't be solved, forgotten, forgiven overnight...hang in there..if that's what you want..and let time help the healing and rebuilding.
unknown unconquered territory...exciting...mysterious...ILLUSION!!!it's not real
W thinks it's real, she is dumping me for real!
...I had to explain to h what a fettish was
WTF! I don't understand this!!!!!!!! I know every fetish in the book, including some even I wouldn't try! And W still dumped me!!!!
crimeny!!! what's a woman to do??
Buy some damn Viagra, and spike his dinner drink!!!!!
Won't go into details about Miami last night unless you want to hear about it, but I will tell you this: HAVE BEEN THINKING ABOUT W ALL NIGHT AND ALL DAY TODAY!!
I just wish this divorce process would go a hell of alot faster, or I would wake up to find out it has been a bad dream!!!!!
I got an idea. Lets get a ticket for Tony, and let him help. Hey, Tony you game?? DUH!
Poe,
LL already let me know that wasn't going to happen!!!!!!Even after she told the whole WWW that she gets hot sitting in front of the fireplace in her underwear!!!!!I DO have fantacies!!Sorry LL
I even suggested it to a few other women on this site, and they don't write back any more! Although you and I laugh about it, this BB might not be the place to joke about it OK?
Quote: but I suppose I should just accept the fact that I'm married and therefore to expect to be treated like a "woman" regularly is out of the question...that's for single people.
Another thing W told me during this sit, if I was married to some one with a s** drive like mine, I wouldn't be happy??? What she forgets, is SHE DID have a sex drive like mine, but just didn't realize it! And she kept me VERY happy. I guess the problem in our M is I didn't tell her I was happy???? Or at least she doesn't remember I did!
I am writing this letter to share my feelings with you.
1)For Anger ·I don’t like it… ·I feel frustrated… ·I am angry that. ·I fell annoyed… ·I want… 2)For sadness ·I Feel disappointed… ·I am sad that… ·I feel hurt… ·I wanted… ·I want… 3)For fear ·I feel worried… *I am afraid… ·I feel scared… ·I do not want… ·I need... ·I want… 4).For Regret ·I feel embarrassed ·I am sorry ·I feel ashamed ·I didn’t want… ·I want… 5).For Love ·I love… ·I want… ·I understand… ·I forgive… ·I appreciate… ·I thank you for… ·I know…
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