Quote: I'm trying to communicate to h the possiblity of my becomming a waw and he is trying to do the best he can to keep that from happening...things are looking better...we'll see what happens.
I'm wishing you the best! You've settled down the last couple days, maybe there is something to: If it's not working, do something different! Now that you aren't whining and complaining, it might be working!!
Good luck, and hang in there!
This will be the first time "W" gets home and I'm not there!! I'm going to Miami this weekend just to do my laundry, eat Chinese food, get a cheap hotel room, watch TV, sleep, go out to breakfast, drive back slooooow, ALL ALONE! Yea, not even with Ms Chevy.
Maybe W will be curious about where I am! S will tell her "Dad not at shop all night". She probably won't even give a sh!t.
ok so...h got home around 3ish not exactly sure cause the kids and I were in the playroom (basement) and when we came up he was outside burning some more of the trees and brush that he's taken down.
instead of going out to dinner I suggested we just eat here, h doesn't want to eat meat during lent and I had bought a piece of haddock when I went food shopping...so I cooked some raviolis and garlic bread and the haddock...my mom came over to eat too and watch the kids...h didn't come in the house til after 6pm...took his shower ate...I put dd to bed...showered and we went off to walmart to get some diapers and stuff and then to a movie..."phone booth" not recommended...was odd for me...it was about a guy who was having an ea with a woman and had to come clean with the w or he'd get shot!!
I had more fun at walmart than at the movie...the movie got out a little after 10 I said to h...I say let's go get a drink but the weather seems more like we should just go to our own bar..h agreed...we got home and I helped h get the plow back on the truck...I offered to drive while he directed to get it lined up right...he then wanted to scrape our driveway so I went in.... h came in and immediately got on the puter checking the weather...I got bored waiting...asked h if he was planning to go to bed after...he said no we can stay up I'll have a beer you can have a drink we'll sit down stairs...h was taking a while so I folded some laundry...h went down stairs...when I got down there he had turned on the tv and was watching the news (cnn/fox) I sat at the bar..h sat on the couch...I then sat on the couch...h then went up to bed...I stayed and watched a bit more (like 5min) I then went up to bed...went to sleep.
uhm????
sun I seek physcial affection from h and argue about it...mon nothing...tue nothing...wed nothing...thurs nothing...fri we go out and still nothing!!!! WTF???
ok good things... h did walk me to the truck and opend the door for me... h did put his arm around me on the way into the store...(but it made me want to cry...) h did hold my hand on the way into the movie... h did seem to move closer to me when he realized why the guy in the movie was in such deep sh!t... h did give me his arm on the way back to the truck... h did spoon me when we got to bed..
now I've reached the point where I don't want h to bother me!!! I'm annoyed with waiting!!
at this point I'm finding it hard to believe that h simply had an ea with this woman... wtf did they talk about all the time??? I don't hear h talk about much more then the weather...sports...the new crisis in the world..and our kids...what he plans to do with the yard...what time he'll be home...what appointments he has etc...
really what the hell were they talking about every friggen day??? what the hell were they talking about the 3x a week that he would go to her house????
they weren't talking??? they were screwing the hell out of eachother and then getting a big kick out of laughing at me about it all...and gee what a sap I am now...stuck with a h who has a friggen girlfriend while I cook and clean and try to make him happy but have to "take care of business" myself...what a raw deal this is!!!
I'd like to tell h to go be with skanky ho!! she is after all making herself fully available by leaving her h...why bother with me??? you obviously can afford to pay for the kids and me and still afford your own place and life!!!
I'm bored!!! I've been sitting on the friggen couch wathcing cnn/fox/msnbc and all that for over two weeks now...sure h is kind enough to let me sit on the same couch as him...sometimes is nice enough to let me lay down next to him and fall asleep...but wtf?? I am home alone all day with two little kids...I understand his desire to know what's going on in the world...I have myself become interested in watching it..but d'ya think that maybe we could put it on the radio and go downstairs and play darts or something..think maybe we could have a few drinks some laughs and gee I don't know maybe a little physical fun???
things will never change....when h first started to come around it was fun it was exciting..it was playing darts hanging out...massages or just cuddling...h would ask to come in the shower with me...h couldn't get enough of hugging and kissing me...wtf???
I can feel your pain. I miss my H very much physically. I also wonder if H was PA or EO with OW. But I'm thinking your H has never really been overly physical so why with OW? She was also going under cancer treatment so did she really feel like it? Probably not.
That doesn't help now but at least it's an option for then. Did they laugh at LL? I doubt it but you can laugh now because H is home with you!
I don't know what to suggest. Maybe a video or Pay-Per=View? Just a sugestion.
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Maybe we should go to find some male strippers next week!
I don't have much practical support to offer, but I can genuinely say I understand how you feel. I have done many things to try to appeal to my H on "that" level...I won't go into lots of detail, as I gather we may end up with a water shortage...but you know, tried to appeal to his sense of fantasy. For our tenth anniversary, we went to Vegas, and I had packed a few things, including the sexiest nightie I have ever seen, with see-thru lace on top ... H barely acknowledged I was there after I changed into it, only to say he was going to the casino. OUCH!!! And I am not hideous...as with you, I have had my share of admirers. Unfortunately H was not one of them. I don't get it! (nor do I understand )
I have not read The Sex Starved Marriage, but given Michele's wisdom in DB and DR, she is the first person I would turn to if H was still here and I was working on this. I hope and wish that your H will read it, or that your c can help to open his eyes. By most men's standards, your H is lucky to have a wife who enjoys sex (am I right, guys?)
Quote: things will never change....when h first started to come around it was fun it was exciting..it was playing darts hanging out...massages or just cuddling...h would ask to come in the shower with me...h couldn't get enough of hugging and kissing me...wtf???
LL,
Can tell you didn't get any last night!! My W is right, "live with it or move on" Only you have the power to choose! This is why there are 2,000,000 divorces a year! Will you find some one better, or remain single and miserable????????
I'm at the Miami public library. Passed W on highway half way up here! Not sure if she saw me or not! Guess what, NO PAIN! (well, maybe a little or I wouldn't be here) My heart beats more when I see Ms Chevy.
I'll stay up here tonight, do laundry, watch a movie,then catch up with you tomorrow.
Your sit is sad, you don't deserve it! Did you follow my suggestion about H setting one day a week aside for sex? maybe ask him once a month!
With me, you would be saying TOO MUCH, LEAVE ME ALONE, I'M TIRED OF BEING TREATED LIKE A PIECE OF MEAT, and you would dump me!!!!!!
of course it does tony...ms chevy is the unknown unconquered territory...exciting...mysterious...ILLUSION!!! it's not real...I could get a flutter about the next repair man that comes in the house...get all warm a fuzzy fantasising about what it would be like to be with him...but ya know what...he's probably just as lame as the next guy soooooooo!!!
guess I should quit complaining about this issue and read ssm and see if I can find some ideas...also see if h would be willing to read it.
ya know one night while watching csi they were investigating a murder that involved a man with a fettish...I had to explain to h what a fettish was all about...then asked h if he had any fantacies (I'm willing) and he was annoyed that I was interupting the show and then flatly said no he didn't have any fantasies.
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