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Originally Posted by LH19
Continue to post. I have experience with half hearted reconciliation.


Yeah. That whole idea has me daydreaming about being done with it all. I don't want to deal with that, and that's my default assumption unless proven otherwise.


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I can understand how you feel. I have kids so that’s why I did it. If I didn’t I probably would have walked away.

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This is really good advice IHCLACS. I've taken a lot on board myself for my situation too.

Internalising all the positive steps you're taking towards yourself, and making your brain turn that into learned behavior, is crucial.

Growth will then follow, just at different speeds for each person.


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Oops, reconciling/ piecing is very hard work! So hang in there. Congrats on getting a shot at recon. Please do keep posting, it'll help you focus on what you should do, and it'll help others here understand the difficulties people go through in recon.


Me: 60 w/ S18, D24, D27

M: 21 years; BD: 06-14-12; S: 09-10-12; D final: 03-17-14; XW:57
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Just dropping in to note that we're still in MC. I'm mostly successfully detached lately and believe I'll be fine either way. My stress and anxiety are low.

There hasn't been a lot to even post about yet. It's like I'm waiting to see what she really does, still. I've been reading a lot.

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May: discover PA
April: MC pending IC, back in MBR, discover EA
March: different bedrooms, IC
Jan 19: ILYBINILWY
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