I wish someone couldve hit me in the head with a 2x4 3 years ago when my now ex wife started her BS. it took me almost 2 years to wake the **** up! once i did not only did my life improve 1,000,000% but magically my Ex decided she wanted to try and reconcile....I told her "sorry baby cakes that ship set sail". I went from the chaser to the chased seemingly overnight. What changed??? Her??? NO! ME! It was ME the whole time!! I changed! I changed back to the man she fell in love with and then some! I learned, I adapted and became the best version of myself I have ever been. She has told me and all of our closest mutual friends how deeply she regrets her choices.
For a long time I was like a scared kitty cat around her and her "new friend" which of course based on everything I know about attraction made the "new friend" look like the right choice. Now that I am back to being a Lion and IT SHOWS trust me it shows. You cannot fake it!! She went from strutting her "new friend" around like a peacock to now visibly shunning them.
my standard reply is "Yea that [censored] but hey at least you found yourself" ....I know a bit self serving but hey, Im not perfect.
Its almost comical if it wasnt so sad.
I guess in Summary if you want your wife back....STOP BEING A PUSSYCAT AND BE A LION!
It takes a certain kind of pond scum to pursue a married woman. They all run the same tired play book:
Step 1: Be listening ear as a "friend" Step 2: Use information gathered in step one to your advantage. Step 3: Be the "Knight in Shining Armor" while the LBS is losing their **** chasing the WAW
Take away step 3 and you just have a couple of sad sacks. Your WAW will quickly see she is with a weasel not some HERO!!
Its so predictable...makes me want to puke.
Me: 39 W: 38 S: 15 D: 12 D: 6 BD 8/15 NEED SPACE S 2/16 Divorced 4/17 and loving it, waw came back 12/17.....I declined
I have had that realization that I am simply focusing on WAW and not focusing on me and that Rec or not I have to focus on me. I need to read your threads. But I am curious did she want to Rec before or after you were D?
M 40 W 34 Together 7 Married 2 No Kids BD 1/18 need space Moved out 2/18 ILYBNILWY & Asked for D 3/18 W filed for D 6/18 D final 10/18
Thanks for coming back and updating on your sitch..would you mind going more into detail. You basically left 2 years of information out. What triggered you to really 180 and focus on yourself. How would your WAW act this whole time?
M:26 WAW:26 T:11 M:7 D:3 BD 1 10/16 I love you but not in love BD 2 2/18 I love you but... W moves out 3/18
Sorry folks was out at my D (now 15) soccer game. I'll grab some dinner then respond to some of your ?s. I learned so much from lurking here that I feel I owe it to pay it forward.
Me: 39 W: 38 S: 15 D: 12 D: 6 BD 8/15 NEED SPACE S 2/16 Divorced 4/17 and loving it, waw came back 12/17.....I declined
It takes a certain kind of pond scum to pursue a married woman. They all run the same tired play book:
Step 1: Be listening ear as a "friend" Step 2: Use information gathered in step one to your advantage. Step 3: Be the "Knight in Shining Armor" while the LBS is losing their **** chasing the WAW
Take away step 3 and you just have a couple of sad sacks. Your WAW will quickly see she is with a weasel not some HERO!!
Its so predictable...makes me want to puke.
Hhahahahahaha... This is exactly the "new friend" my W has. Anything that happens, she runs to him and gives her BS version, and runs through the steps you listed. And you're exactly right. She sees him as her white knight, but he's actually just white trash...
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
endofit, you are woke indeed. Wonderful post, thank you for sharing.
Brother you may not want to hear this and I may get in trouble for saying it with the mods....But your Wife had an affair with a 19yo boy and you are letting her stay in YOUR family home?? Brother you need to bounce her the **** out of there like tomorrow! Tell her go live with her new BF in his parents basement!! Like Tomorrow!!
Make tomorrow the first day of the rest of your life!
Take back your Dignity!
Me: 39 W: 38 S: 15 D: 12 D: 6 BD 8/15 NEED SPACE S 2/16 Divorced 4/17 and loving it, waw came back 12/17.....I declined
