I was curious if anyone had any experience or advice when it comes communication with mutual friends and family when it comes to detachment. While I ve been detaching it has been very hard to not keep up appearances for mutual friends (especially with kids) and with family.
It really is the last barrier to true detachment for me. Does anyone have advice based on their experience?
Edit - start a new thread - cadet
Last edited by Cadet; 06/12/1801:28 AM. Reason: restored post
Vinny, you need to start a new thread now that you are at 11 pages. However, if I understand your question it is how do you include mutual friends and family in the detachment from your W? You don't. It is none of their business and pulling them into your MR sitch will only end up being a barrier for your W to return the MR.
Remain cooly, lovingly detached to your W around others. Remember, detachment is not ignoring or "going dark". Many people get that wrong. It is being friendly, upbeat and pleasant, but not letting what she says or does affect you. You can do that even around others.
