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Di-mond #2667970 04/10/16 11:36 AM
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Mu

If you want to be foolish on the bus, chat to me in our usual place in 10 minutes.

I am a back seat driver.

And I give really great hugs.

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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
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Vanilla #2667972 04/10/16 11:43 AM
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I just walked away from lunch with my wife and kids. I can't even sit at the table with her. She has broken my heart so deeply. I am lost.



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mutatio #2667973 04/10/16 11:46 AM
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Mu, I am so sorry. You need a ride on the bus.

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Hey Mu, just letting you know I posted a comment on MWD about the value of wisdom and a learning it as I get older. Look for the Hobbit!! Jellyxxx We will get you through this Mut. As V says I internet promise!

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I guess I must join facebook ?



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Gmum #2667981 04/10/16 11:59 AM
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Mu, sorry to hear about the new development. Give yourself time to grieve and take things slow. Be gently with yourself and don't tske all of the blame for this. You had your role in the breakdown of the M just as she did, neither of you are 100% responsible. She choose to walk away and not try when you did. You worked on your flaws and became a new person, don't discount that.

Her walking away isn't about not forgiving you, it's about her. Not wanting to do the work or feel certain things, not wanting to feel worse about herself because of her actions. I'm sure you see the other likely roadblock but none of it matters. It's her life and her choice, which is a loss for her in the long run. There will be life for you after this, no matter what happens.

You're going to be ok mu, just keep following your path. It's going to hurt and wont be easy but you will come out the other side just fine. Talk to you soon.


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mutatio #2667982 04/10/16 12:01 PM
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Originally Posted By: mutatio
I guess I must join facebook ?


Yes

Unless you are on LinkedIn?


Until we can mourn the past we are doomed to repeat it

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I just begged her for a 1% chance of not divorcing and she said no. She is not sure that we can even stay together for my son to graduate high school. I am dead inside

I can't figure out how to join facebook, I'll go ask my daughter. I see you my friends, I just can't think straight.



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Mu. I'm sorry. It's the hardest thing I have been through, by far. Be strong for the kids, they need a role model who isn't completely selfish. Teach them that people have value, and aren't disposable. Show them the love of a parent. Protect yourself, emotionally and financially.

Take her complaints with a grain of salt. Remember that she can twist things, rewrite history, etc. Don't take it personal,if you can. It's all about her and always was. Things may change, but it isn't time now.

Chin up, brother. Join fb, find the bus... there is much love and support for you to find there. Don't worry, I'm not allowed to touch the radio!

You are held in high regard, many people see your worth. Don't forget it


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I will be joining face book in in about 2 hours. I must do something first. See you later.

I know I have to start a new thread.



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