So another 24hr disappearance act from the WW. How the Heck do you detach from that? Seriously folks I'm fantasizing about changing the locks and throwing her clothes out on the street.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Hi NDY, I'm just starting to follow your thread. It caught my attention that you have been together with your W for 21 years, and I am married to my W for 22 years. Its the hardest thing we have ever faced, isn't it?
I don't have any special answer for you on your question of whether or not you should kick your W out of the home. But I do know it is not any easier with a separated W who dates (yes, my W also thought at the beginning that just kissing other guys wasn't doing anything wrong).
With a separated W and a son involved you are still connected together. Your W will still do whatever she pleases, but there is no longer the connection of having a home together. And unless there is a lot of fighting, it is better for your s9 if you are all under the same roof. I think for now allowing her to stay in the home is your best course of action, for as long as you can take it.
Hi wet. Thanks for stopping in. Yes this is the hardest thing we've ever done. I can cope with living here for now. I just feel myself getting frustrated that nothing seems to be going anywhere. I'm not sure if that's a good sign or a bad one.
This has went on for so long now I feel numb.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Been a crazy week and I just wanted to check in.. Think that if you can stand living together it's an easier road to progress but probably harder in some aspects.. Detaching I guess is easier when they are not under your nose. (Except for me who seem hell bent on hurting myself.)
I can't wait for numbness to set in. I actually went so far as to buy a natural herb that helps with anxiet, so I want to get to where you are.
Did you have a good weekend? Good for you that you haven't let her trap you in a fight! Thinking of you! Hugs!
M: 44 H: 43 ILYBNILWY: 7/4-15 Decided to try to reconnect. "This doesn't work, I have no feelings": 20/4-15 Scheduled "talk" :9/5-15 It's over: 9/5
Thanks for the encouragement. Not sure that we can stand living together much longer but I'll hang in there a little longer.
Till, the numbness is a relief, but sometimes it spills over into anger and I want to scream. So far I've escaped to my support network which helps.
I did have a good weekend. Had S9 all to myself so we did cool guy stuff then went out for dinner. All families of course and I was the only one without his W beside him. Ah well.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Yeah, throwing stuff out of the window seems like a really good idea.....however, I believe 'The Beak' might think otherwise!
Well at least you had man time with S. That's worth a lot and he'll appreciate that in the future. Yeah, your W is missing. When she returns, you've got to act like you don't care - that'll prove a point to her. Especially if S lays it on thick about what a good time you've had.
Frustration is bad for us. Now and again we see hope; we just need it to turn into positivity.
M 45 W 52 SD22 S9 D8 BD 6 April 2015 Not living together 4 Dec 2015
Thanks mate. She returned around 12:30 today. I left as soon as she arrived. Didn't speak or look like I was in a mood. Just said by to S9 and left.
Anyway, she is acting strange. She txt me around 11am to ask if I could let S9 know that their plans were put back a bit. I txt back to say why can't she just tell so herself. So she phones the house. I literally txt her and she phoned the landline? Wtf? I had my phone in my hand and she knew it would be me that answered. So she spoke to S9 and I say to him when will she be home. He asked her and then hands the phone to me. She then starts going on about being back around 12:30. Ok so weird. Why not wait till 12:30 to tell S9 your plans have moved out.
All very strange.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
Temp check? Making sure you're still plan B when it all goes wrong.
not wanting to mind read but I'm going to anyway. I think it was guilt.
Me:43 Her:42 M:14 S:9 EA started 2014/03 (or there abouts) PA started 2014/05/30 BD:2014/11/05 I left 2015/10/01 I returned 2015/05/02 She left 2015/06/10 OM still on the go.
