We agreed to a date night once/week, but since she said she moved out to have space and to clear her head, I decided a few weeks after she moved out to stop contact with her as I didnt want to be a bother while she got things straightened out.
We supposedly have 10 weeks left of this trial separation, but I may pull the plug sooner.
Her mother sent me an email a while back saying "if you love something, set it free..."
Such a half-assed thing to say. We're married, not high school students dating.
I'm thinking about pulling the plug because part of me thinks she's having an EA/PA. The other half of me thinks she's only confused in the marriage.
My plan of action is to GAL, continue with my therapist, follow your rules, and to maintain NC with my WAW. I'm not going to ask her for another date night. I've stopped begging her to come back. I've stopped being friends with her on facebook.
I do miss her terribly, but I'm bracing for her to either admit some sort of A or file for a D (kind of why I want to pull the plug and beat her to the punch).
My plan of action is to GAL, continue with my therapist, follow your rules, and to maintain NC with my WAW. I'm not going to ask her for another date night. I've stopped begging her to come back. I've stopped being friends with her on facebook.
How do plan to maintain NC and then ask for another date night? Those are very mixed messages.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
