Sorry I have been MIA, work trip took me cross country, including your state (boy that Pirate Festival in Tampa is one hell of a party).
Originally Posted By: T0324
Anyway, we are no where near out of the woods but his actions lead me to believe we are in the right direction.
Anyway, glad to hear your optimism. Keep it up!
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
Good ole Gasparilla matey! Lots of drunk pirates everywhere
Sorry for the lack of an update, working 5 15+ hour days in a row leave me MIA. I hate to keep bringing up work but I am feeling done. We had our 6 death in the last two weeks. Where I work death is pretty common especially working in a level one trauma ICU however - we do see good things too. Lately we have not. I have 2 funerals to attend to this weekend and I am feeling drained.
H and I are doing well (IMO). He's back to the guy he was months ago. He is very loving and affectionate. I told MC Wednesday that I don't know what's different in me that has helped things turn around. MC also got into issues pre A. H is speaking up a lot more which is good so I can actually have some insight on things I do that bother him.
Anyway, off to have breakfast with the boys for Valentines. H made arrangements for a sitter and has plans for us but won't tell me what. I hope everyone has a wonderful day.
Happy Valentine's Day, TO! Have a wonderful day with your boys and evening with your husband. You deserve it! I am so sorry about all you have to face at work. It takes a special person to do what you do. You have a very big heart and you have helped so many people here and I'm sure at your job too.
Me: 38 H: 43 Kids: 2,4 T10 M6 BD: 1/14 11/14: H moves out
I hope my story and mistakes help others but I am still very much a work in progress myself.
Sandi - you and me both! I brought up in counseling of how do we avoid these roller coaster changing of behavior/emotions. That's where C told me I was a linear thinker and is why I make a great nurse. I am not trying to control the situation as C insinuated I was, I am trying to educate myself on if there's something I can do to avoid H withdrawing from me so much and jumping to divorce when he is depressed, etc. I hope what I'm trying to say makes sense.
Good ole Gasparilla matey! Lots of drunk pirates everywhere
arrrrrr! I had to swab the deck of my hotel bathroom on that night!
Originally Posted By: T0324
Sorry for the lack of an update, working 5 15+ hour days in a row leave me MIA. I hate to keep bringing up work but I am feeling done. We had our 6 death in the last two weeks. Where I work death is pretty common especially working in a level one trauma ICU however - we do see good things too. Lately we have not. I have 2 funerals to attend to this weekend and I am feeling drained.
I know its an extremely fine line for you as you vest and care about your patients. But I saw that with my ex, where she had to help co-workers be caring enough... but clinical enough to keep a "safe" distance. Potentially get with your wellness center at the facility you work. Exploit the resources they offer for grief and stress management.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
Our boss actually just planned a night out at Dave and Busters the first week of March. We all need it. I sat in a med room and cried on Friday. A young girl I have cared for off and on over the last couple of years passed away and it was just enough. I also think the fact that I had worked 5 in a row didn't help. But I'm feeling better. Both of the funerals were actually wonderful. More of celebrations of life than anything and I've gained friends that I will have forever. There are some people you just can't help but get close too but it's not like that with everyone I take care of
As far as H and I, I am being cautiously optimistic and receptive. H is back to being who he was the first months he came back. Texts throughout the day, affectionate, planning date nights, Etc. While I enjoy this I wonder if it's a roller coaster ride. I am in a better place this time to be more receptive to his advances since that was his complaint and reason why he stopped doing these things before so we will see.
We have spaced out counseling to every other week now.
I think its good to have the regimented plan for the counseling every other week. That way, keep in the back of your mind if you blow it off, you will then have missed a month.
Keep up the good work!
I am just thinking out loud (so vets chime in if its not a good idea): But regarding your GAL's; are there positives to starting a totally new GAL, but including H?
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13
