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Originally Posted By: MrBond
I can tell you one thing though. Things will not change if all you do is concentrate on the negative.

What are YOU doing to improve YOU? Have you really looked at yourself and figured out things that need to change?

Of course she hates you right now. Of course she needs to hate you to continue with this. Of course she's telling people her side of things and making you seem like the bad guy. Guess what, there isn't a thing you can do about how she feels right now or what she tells people. All you can do is work on you and prove to her and everyone else who you are.


Originally Posted By: snafu22
She has me by the short hairs. Its her being in control and being listened to that she wants. The whole thing is sick and twisted.

What is she in control of?

Is she in control of what you're doing to improve you?

In control of how you act or present yourself?


Personality is who the world sees, character is who you are

Turn your trials into your testimonies

Don't believe everything you think

Expectations are resentments waiting to happen
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I guess she doesn't have control of those things. She is justifying her behavior through lies. I am still bettering myself which is good for me. I keep turning the other cheek with how she treats me. I am always polite even when I don't want to.

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Does she have post partem depression? I read that IVF patients are four times more likely to have it. Should I tell her?

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Great points. She is controlling the flow of things. She won't speak to me, she dictates when I can see my child, she talks down to me if she speaks at all. It can't control the negativity that is gushing from this whole thing. My motivation to do anything is low. Only seeing my daughter lifts my spirits. I will never give up, but its painful especially if I do it the DB way.

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She made an appointment with a mediator for Oct 15. What do i do now?

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Its over. We meet with a mediator next week.

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Snafu22,

You need to get off the rollercoaster... what is going on in your sitch now?


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I stalled on the mediation, so she went and filed. I'm waiting on the paperwork. Her attitude has not changed. She is dating someone.

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She'll only contact me via email. When I pick up our daughter, I won't speak. I'm disgusted by her. All I think of is my daughter. One day my daughter will know the truth off what her mom did.

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