Well, the congrats on the baby were great...the hubs did as I expected. Found out he is still contacting, thus probably sleeping with at least 2 of the OW. I haven't told him I know yet, as he just moved across the country. I have an appointment tonight with my IC. As previously stated to him, my dealbreaker was lying. He lied. I'm done.
Now I just need to do whatever I need to, to protect my children and my's financial future. Plus, I know as soon as I tell him, he'll be a crazy emotional rollcoaster.
Deep breathe, one foot infront of the other...I can do this!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
PS. We were to follow him in a few months when I got all our things here tied up. Clearly...that is not going to happen now.
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
I am sorry T that this has happened. I know you are taking care of yourself and I send you love and hugs
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Thanks guys. Yeah, I really wish people came with tags.
I really think that I just wanted to be right about him. I couldn't accept that the man I married, the father of my children, was really this terrible person. And to been continuing to endanger my life by sleeping around, is terrible. To continue to emotionally abuse me...terrible. And frankly, cheating is abuse. Plain and simple. It's been really hard to pretend everything is ok. To say I love you, to stomach listening to him go on and on about how much he misses me.
The kids. Oh my poor babies!! I do hope that he can find a job back here to be near them, and frankly I need the help!! He is going to lose his mind when I tell him I'm done. He'll first lose his mind that I looked at his phone. But I gave him the opportunity to tell me whose number it was, he lied. He didn't know that I wrote down the numbers. HIs crazy butt will blame me first, but he has no one to blame but himself. Jerk!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
OHHH Boy Tallula. I'm so sorry too. Congrats on the baby. Take care of yourself and family. (((HUGS)))
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
T - T I am so sorry...but I will guarantee something.
You will be OK, more than OK, you will survive this and thrive. You have proven that already. And your children will be your motivation and strength.
I never thought I would make it alone, pregnant with two toddlers. Here I am, almost three years later - and if I could do it, you most definitely can.
Time helps, time heals. In the meantime, take care of yourself, be extra gentle with your heart and hug your little angels tight.
(((((((tallula)))))))))
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
I'm actually doing wonderful. Busy as heck being a total single mom to 3 kids. The ex has been in town a total of a week in the past 6 months to see the kids. I have kept it civil. Frankly, I'm the happiest I've ever been!! Feel more like myself than I have in years.
The kids struggle, as expected when their dad just picks up and moves across country.
I've gone on dates, hung with friends, marveled in my babies. I'm truly blessed and very thankful for all of you.
I hope everyone is well. I'm working fulltime now, so I don't have really any free time to do too much here, but I will try to get caught up.
I have to say, I'm very much still....mana mana, doo doo doo doo doo!!
M: 9 yrs T: 13 yrs H:34 Me:35, S4, D2, S 7 months Dday 11/12-PA & multiple PAs Dbing 12/12 S 1/13 7/13 H moved back in basement. 8/13 #3 born 10/13 still cheating 10/13 He moves across country, I file for D
