Me41(2nd M) W38(3rd M) M7 T10 SD 16 SS13 D6 ILYBINILWY 3/12 AOM 4/17 Bomb 5/27
Story as she would tell it. I never turned out to be the person I posted I was online. We met right as each of our previous marriages were ending.Making out on the second date. I felt I loved her early on.
We married and I became injured and went on workmens comp soon after we were married. That was the beginning of the end for her.I was unable to work or be seen doing anything was in a holding pattern for 2 years till case was settled. During that time we decided to have my only Daughter.Five months into her pregnancy I was busted looking at porn on the web.That happen maybe 2 more times over the course of the 10 years.
I also expressed to her that i found other women attractive while on business trips but was never unfathfull.
I have been a messy person not keeping up with my share of the household after the injury but am better now.
We had a religious reawakening 2 years ago and were married in the catholic church after a couples weekend.
Maybe 6 months ago hints that she was not happy. Followed by I cant do it any more ect for the last 3 months. Me pleading to stay
About a month ago She told me that she had a encounter that was more than just eye contact and can,t stop dreaming about how it could be to be involved with someone passionately.
A few weeks later I love u but not in love Followed by I want a divorce.
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So i up to this point have been pleading for her to stay. Have just begun my first 180 personal counseling and GAL stuff along with phone coaching.
Last night we had a melt down in public and she seems thru.
I have been given the advice to call her bluff at the next incident telling her she should leave if its that bad.
Im scared.
Planing to stay out one night this week where she can wonder where I am and I expect that will trigger something. I don't want to be the one showing my kids my back by being the one to leave. Am afraid of her doing crazy stuff like leaving with the kids on the night of a blow up.
You can't make someone stay that doesn't want to. Leaving doesn't mean she won't be back. One characteristic of a WAS is that they need time and space for things to be put in perspective. It is hard as heck to let them go, I won't lie to you.
You might get more response if you post your situation on the newcomer's forum.
Me:53 W:50 M:29 years T: 30 years Children: S21, D12
