After many thought provoking conversations this weekend, I decided to link a thread (if I can figure it out)...
This was started a while back, is not scientific by any means, however, is full of things from people who have been there...where you are right now if you are newer to this...
Read, digest, learn from the many wonderful and wise people whose thought and experiences sometimes get lost in the archives...
Thanks Cat. Gonna try and read the entire thread but so far this is where I'm >"I think the LBSer tends to stick into Anger and Depression the most...with a modification of Denial." Jack wrote that.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
For those who may not understand the stages of grief just remember that they are not linear. You maybe one day in the denial phase and another day in the anger phase. You will cycle trough all of them back and forth.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
yes i agree so much - especially after reading the thread - it gave me so much more understanding of where i am in all of this, and where it could or could not lead to, depending on how i faced it all
i've found that when i have a deeper understanding my doing all this reading about how this all goes, it increases my patience tenfold , helps me to step back and allows me to get one tiny step closer to being more detached than i was before.
the back and forth in our own cycles, is just as exhausting as the mlc'ers.
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
