This may sound strange, but read the 5 love languages
I say this as I got some really good information from the book which I have put into practice with the kids, knowing what makes them tick and what they need through this difficult time to feel loved.
Just my 2p, but I found that useful
Me - 37 W - 38 D - 14 S - 12 Together - 16 Married - 12 Bomb - April 13, 2011 W moved out - May 13, 2011
The man I became is changing back to the man I was........... and more
My wife has been pressuring me about taking the kids away for thanksgiving. I told her NO. This is their home and we were going to do our traditions. I told her she was welcomed to join us, or she could go by herself, it was her choice.
Me 45 W 34 W.A.W. 3K. D11 S9 D6 M 12 y T 13 y Bomb drop 02/22/2011 2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011 Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011
Nothing new to report... Status quo. Wife in better mood lately. I am now at home fuul time. Still no redeployment within the company. If no job in the next 6 days, I will have to take a job with anew company. I have done a couple acts of service / gifts for my wife. She has accepted them and we are getting along ok. I hesitate to call it progress but, it is encouraging. I am OK with whatever path this takes at this point. If we split, I will find someone new to share my life with. To be honest, the emotional abandonment from her is not what I want from a marriage either. Just a waiting game now... I'm!50/50.
Johnnie
Me 45 W 34 W.A.W. 3K. D11 S9 D6 M 12 y T 13 y Bomb drop 02/22/2011 2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011 Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011
Did not get redeployed by my company, I am out of work now and have to find employment someplace new. Wife has been extra cranky all week, I lost my cool with her tonight and told her what I think of her called her a B*t*h. I dont feel bad about it either, she has been acting like one. She is so self centered that she is nothing of the sweet girl I married. With every day that passes, I feel my heart hardening to her. I give up. I don't want this alien person that has taken over my wife, and I told her that too. I have resigned myself to the fact that my marriage won't survive this. I was hoping to keep the house when we split up, so that the kids would keep sone stability of thier rooms and the gone they grew up in, but with the developments of today, there is no way I can afford to keep the house when we split.
I'm just to tired to keep fighting for something that is gone...
Johnnie
Me 45 W 34 W.A.W. 3K. D11 S9 D6 M 12 y T 13 y Bomb drop 02/22/2011 2nd written bomb (Letter bomb) 05/31/2011 Affair (A bomb) revealed 07/03/2011
so how is the job search going to be re-directed now?
That's something you DO control...and so is your temper with your w.
I understand your anger but is expressing it TO HER, helping you?
just asking...control what you can control and let go of the rest.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
