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#2102863 11/08/10 02:27 PM
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Weekend was good. We spent time together as a family. She was very affectionate. Continued to make sure she showed me her cell phone and when a call would come in she would stay in the room and talk.

She moved back into the newly renovated bathroom.

We have been spending time again as a couple. She is passionatly kissing me. She has said many times that she is committed and is happy we are working it out.

I am still watching. No mention of TKD at all... there was an actual tournament this weekend and she didnt go.

Oh we are reading How to Affair proof your marriage by Nueman together at night.


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not sure where I am now in this journey, reconciling or what?


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Not really.

Jeez, you guys sure do jump from A to Z in a heartbeat.

For exhibit A, please see Rob1971 here in Newcomers.

Maybe you can talk sense to him though.

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You are on the first leg of a very long journey. Which isn't a bad thing, really. The point isn't whether you are "this" or "that". It's that you take every day, and do the right thing.

From where I am sitting, we know that you have a bunch of issues. And if you don't address them, in a long term, permanent way, you are going to end up right back where you were. So take advantage of the fact that you appear to have at least a bit of a reprieve, and get to work on you.


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Originally Posted By: Pensacolabroken
not sure where I am now in this journey, reconciling or what?
I was 2 threads behind and looks like I missed out on a lot. Not sure what to tell you. There was a lot of confusion 2 threads ago and seems to be a lot of confusion now too. The above quote and the passionate kissing does not quite add up.

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fb2,

I think I am getting closer to pieceing.. not sure when to make the jump over there to that thread.


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DesertRat,

yep. I agree. We have a focus based MC with future orientation in our corner. WAW is saying she is committed and her actions since Halloween are supporting this.

I am ready to make it stronger, and am still cautious about the turnaround. MC will be interesting. We both are looking forward to it, (she has told me so).


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Yes be careful PB. My W is doing and saying all the right things and you have to trust that they are. We are getting me a key for her apt tonite and shopping for her S's wedding gift from "US".
I saw her S the other day when I picked up his rent check for her and was playing with the GS and I said to him "I hope this is not too weird for you (fact that me and his mom are back together), and he said "it was wierd to think of you guys not together".
That about says it. I am getting the ILY's and she calls me constantly. Still trying to work out the mortgage issue and she said if the house goes under at least we saved our relationship.
That miffed me becuase she already has a place to live!
Take it slow, see the Co. I still have to make another appoint.
Enjoy each day!!

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Ato I hope you make it! We are day by day. Trying to rebuild the trust. Had an argument over TKD last night. She wants to complete next level of black belt. She will resent me if I tell her no TKD. I am going to give her a chance at NC and see if she maintains boundry. If not deal breaker.


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Originally Posted By: Pensacolabroken
Ato I hope you make it! We are day by day. Trying to rebuild the trust. Had an argument over TKD last night. She wants to complete next level of black belt. She will resent me if I tell her no TKD. I am going to give her a chance at NC and see if she maintains boundry. If not deal breaker.


See why you are just a couple light years away from jumping to "Piecing?" You will get a lot of back-and-forth, and that is even after she APPEARS to be serious about reconciling.

You aren't there yet. Far from it.

Please stay here for now.

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