Well, I thought it about time I popped in and gave some encouragement to those going through such a difficult time. We are still very much back as a family after my H's mlc and ptsd which ended 4 years ago and lasted 3 years with 1 year living apart. In fact we are celebrating 25 years of marriage next year and are going to renew our vows on a beach in Zanzibar with my daughters in a few weeks time. It was the most horrible time I have ever been through and I had literally signed the divorce papers when H "came round"! Our marriage is better than it has ever been and he is constantly thankful to be back and v sorry for everything he put me through. Like BND I learnt so much about myself and also so many life lessons. I never lost faith in my marriage although it was extremely difficult and at times H was just plain nasty. I love him more than ever now. My heart goes out to all of you going through this and I hope my story will encourage you.
Just quickly read though your posts. You reunited with your H in 5/07. Apparently he posted on the board, and I read the post from your 15 year old D, she must be 19 now. It is great to hear that you are doing well. Well wishes on your beach wedding. May you continue to have much happiness!
Thank you SO much for updating here. Your story underscores how important patience is in these situations. I have been reading through your old threads.
I am glad I have given some of you strength to go on and if you have read my posts you know how bad things actually became. Yes he did post on the board and it was horrible. My 19 year old has just finished her 1st year at uni and both daughters have the same good and loving relationship with their dad as they before it all happened. It took a while for the eldest to get there as quite understandably she had her doubts! Yes sorry it was 05/07 I can't quite keep track of everything. Also, my mother was seriously ill in january and has now moved in with us. As unbelievable as it sounds mum and hubby actually now get on really well. something I could never have foreseen as little as a year ago. All I can say is give your partners the space they need, try and be there in times of need but also keep do not allow yourselves to be walked over or treated badly. Try and keep your own self worth and remember it is their crisis not yours. If I can be of any help to anyone I will try and do so.
If you would like to read ellies story, click on her name, and then click view all posts, go all the way to the last page, and start there, and work your way forward. She doesn't post here that often so it may take a while to get a response from her, but in the mean time you can read what she has already posted.
GREAT NEWS....You know we need more posts like yours in these neck of the woods.
Everyone....please note the timeline....3 years! Every case is different...but for those needed HOPE.....here it IS!
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
