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Attaboy, SD! Strength and Honor! grin

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Hey SD,
What dating sites did you use? Just curious in case I am ready to begin.

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Dane, I signed up for match.com, I have also heard good things about eHarmony, but until you are D'd they wont help you- I was so impressed that they had morals!


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Dane, I signed up at Match.com. The thing is, I was completely honest and open about my sitch in my profile, and it seems to be the best thing I could have done. Alot of the "friends" I am talking with, respect the honesty-imagine that??!!!
I think, if I ever do date any of them, that my honesty will pay dividends in the long run. Just my .2 cents.

By the way, I am not recommending that anyone that is having M problems-start dating. That is a personal decision, that shouldn't be taken lightly. You need to KNOW, I mean really KNOW, that you are moving forward before you do it.

Don't take all of that emotional baggage with you. Leave it at the threshold of your old life. Don't cross over with all that garbage, if you do, you aren't ready to cross over. It wouldn't be fair to the new interest, to bring that junk into their life, and a new relationship. Work on yourself. GAL. Know in your mind and heart that you are a good person, and you don't DESERVE to be treated this way.

Drop the rope.

LIVE.


"embrace the suck" - Coach
"don't go all "Melty Man" on us" - Puppy
Let Go and Let God
Finally "Got It" - 15 Jan 2010

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Puppy,
you are a Rock Star! I only wish I would have listened to you much sooner!! We all have to find our way (lost sheep euphemism inserted here)!!!

I am a better man and Father because of you and many others on these boards.

Strength and Honor!


"embrace the suck" - Coach
"don't go all "Melty Man" on us" - Puppy
Let Go and Let God
Finally "Got It" - 15 Jan 2010

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Know in your mind and heart that you are a good person, and you don't DESERVE to be treated this way.

Drop the rope.

LIVE.

Listen to this Luv!


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SD,

Been lurking. You sound great. Strong.

And I' really happy for you. Keep it up.


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SD, it's good to hear you are doing well and working on your self. Keep that PMA up.

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Really great to see your PMA SD.

Just from your recent posts it's obvious you are in a way better place than only a few weeks ago.


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Gnosis,
I am in a much better place right now. I think I am somewhat lucky, in that, like you said in the alt, I am away from all of the garbage and spew because I am deployed. The thing is, I'm not SCARED of the unknown anymore. I'm not AFRAID of what the future holds. I know what I want, and it isn't a life of lies and deceit. I'm better than that. I DESERVE better. I've embraced it, and to be honest, I'm ok with it. I'm gonna LIVE!!

"Time For Me To Fly"
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"embrace the suck" - Coach
"don't go all "Melty Man" on us" - Puppy
Let Go and Let God
Finally "Got It" - 15 Jan 2010

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